I recently asked my boyfriend why he hasn't tried to take our relationship to the next level...(meaning getting engaged) He told me that he'd love to do that but when the time is right. He said that when he get's his life in order he'll take that step.
Am I just wasting my time? I dont want to be one of those women waiting around for years.
Is he seeing someone else?
2007-03-05 05:33:54 · 10 answers · asked by *VS* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 27 years old and can definitely afford a wedding.
I promised myself that I'll never bring it up again...but it's making me want to break up with him. I hoped that we were on the same page with this. I don't see how us being engaged would stop him from handling his business.
2007-03-05 05:53:19 · update #1
I would like to know more about your situation before answering. If he is in school, or young in general and not well established, he might feel it's not the right time.
But if this is not the case, and you have been going out a while - it sounds like you have, since he agrees he wants to be engaged too - then I would begin to think you might have two separate sets of goals in mind.
This is all I can really say, given what I know. Good luck.
2007-03-05 05:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax, you're jumping to conclusions just because he said when the time is right. Has he given you any reason to think or suspect that he's seeing someone else? He may not be able to afford a wedding, a ring or anything at this time. He may also feel that he's not mature enough to be someone's husband and being a family man. Marriage means providing for your family can you honestly say he's able to do this at this time? You need to talk to him instead of assuming. How long have you been with this person anyway? If you want to be engaged so fast buy him a ring and ask him.
2007-03-05 05:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest some women mature faster than some men. No offense to anyone out there but I am just speaking from experience. If you really love the guy then be patient trust me. I have been there you may seem like you are wasting your time..and that you see not future with this guy etc etc. But it takes time you will see everything will work out for the best.
Good Luck!
2007-03-05 05:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is wasting your time. Some guys find that stage in a relationship to be very scary. To them they are being tamed, givin in and loosing their man ways. It is dumb to us but serious to them. he might also be actually looking out for your futures together. Gettin everything in order can make it a lot easier when it comes to that stage of your lives. As far as the cheating thing i dont think you have anything to worry about unless you were concerned about this before this happened. Talk to him ask him if he is unsure or not ready because he is not sure if the two of you are ment to be. be honest. If it is ment to be it will happen and trust yourself. Good luck and good health to you!
2007-03-05 05:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres a lot to look into before making this assumption.
First off... how long have you been going out?
Are you both financially and emotionally mature for a marraige... and if you are question if he is seeing someone else then that means there is some form of insecuriy with you and mistrust.
Look into these problems first before you jump the gun.
Take it EZ
2007-03-05 05:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah girl give him time dont pressure him..i been wit my man for 5 years and that subject also came up and he had pretty much the same answer..he just wants to make sure everything is good..ex: job,money...he wants to make sure he can provide for u and be stable....if this is something u want NOW then its ur decision of what u want to do.
2007-03-05 05:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea25609 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he is seeing anyone else. Maybe he needs to get his situation together? It could be a number of things. Just relax!
2007-03-05 05:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has his sex, cooking, cleaning, he does not want any marriage... Talk to him about it nicely, and explain that you won't be around forever, and that you need a definite deadline to feel comfortable. This "when I put my life in order" (when cows come home) won't do.
2007-03-05 05:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by ask 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To give a more accurate opinions we need more info.
2007-03-05 05:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say maybe,have you seen him trying to get his life in order?
2007-03-05 05:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋