I have a question about my five year old son. He smears his fecies on his bedroom walls. What are steps to check to see if he is mentally five years old? Or if he has been abused or is being abused. His mother and I are divorced. What is the next step I should do? Please if anyone has any suggestions I would appreciate it very much.
2007-03-05 05:28:06 · 7 answers · asked by Damon H 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is common with 1-2 year olds but not with 5 year olds.
Your child is angry and acting out. Find out why he is angry (talk to him).
His anger could be from your divorce or the fact that he doesn't see you as often as he likes.
Also, as far as him being mentally 5 years old, what do you mean by that? Children often regress in behavior when they feel overwhelmed or unloved.
The most important thing to a young child (under 7 years old) is the love of their parents.
2007-03-05 06:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your relationship like with his mother? Can you talk to her about this and determine how often this occurs? When you talk to her do not mention abuse. Right now you are not trying to fix blame, you are trying to see what is wrong with your little boy. If she has primary custody you will not be able to take him to a doctor without her, unless you go to court. (at least this is how it is in my state) Try talking to her first; if this does not work, I am afraid you will have to get authorities involved.
I would not let this go. Whether it is a mental illness problem, something stemming from abuse or just "acting out" your son needs help.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 06:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your son has insurance you can take him to a child psychologist and see what they think. don't take him to one who says he is too young to treat od diagnose. there are lots of good mental health systems out there if you can just find one. and don't get too worried, he may grow out of this and be fine with no mental problem, just a kid who is a little different than some cause i'm betting there are a lot of kids who have done this who have no mental problems just as there are many who did it and do have mental problems. my son has adhd among other things but he never did that, so i can't help you there, but he does do a lot of things that most parents would say he just needs a spanking for. if your son does other things you don't think most kids his age do then i'd get him in to see someone right away so he can begin the healing process. and please don't assume abuse is the cause. there are many other reasons he could be doing it. Good Luck to you. God Bless.
2007-03-05 06:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one for me because it hits close to home my mother said i did the same thing at about that same age it would be my suggestion that if you can afford to take your child to some body more qualified mental health professionals and not just one either
try to get a variety of opinions because there might be some sort of abuse going on there. good luck
2007-03-05 05:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by bubbylicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a name like Damon or Damien and the child of a damaged union already smearing his feces on the wall? Were you born out of wedlock? I am asking these because a person who blogs on this forum has helped a few people with similar symptoms. In the meantime I suggest you read Exodus 34:6/7.
FrankF.
2007-03-05 05:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Frank F 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Children who often display this behavior are often trying to ward off sexual offenders or send a message that something is wrong with them. If they make themselves undesirable then no one will abuse them sexually. Take him to a doctor and have them check for any signs of sexual abuse. Maybe black and blue marks on the rear end or blood in his stool.
2007-03-05 06:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Fly guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn that's one ****** up kid.
Try getting him paper and paint instead.
2007-03-05 06:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋