he is a good man just a sucky boyfriend, he wants to name her destiny but me nor my family likes the name. The catch is he doesnt know that im considering giving her my last name since were are not married or together so should i let him name her or is this just a bad sitiuation?
2007-03-05 05:16:41 · 17 answers · asked by toots 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well, if you dont like the first name then you pick the first name and give her his last name. Keep in mind if its a girl she will change her last name some day anyway. And if he is a good guy he may be a good father and deserves the lineage. AND you get to pick the first name so everyone is happy. I was in the same boat with my first girl and i gave her his last name, but if it was a boy things may be different.
you said he is a good man, i'm going off of that. if he IS a schmuck, name the baby what you want but it sounds like you think he might stay part of hr life, so thats my thought.
2007-03-05 05:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by meme142 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am fortunate enough to have a husband that is the father of my child, BUT having said that, we did not just name our child the first name he liked. We both had to agree on the name. If you were married or at least together, would you just give into the first name HE liked? Probably not. Since you are not together, by no means should you give in to his demands. If he is willing to be an active father, though, don't pick a name just to spite him either. Do not use your child to manipulate him. I know someone going through that and it's not fair to the child. Just b/c it didn't work out with you two (for now) does not mean the child is to suffer. Try to agree on a name, and tell him in a nice way, that while you appreciate his participation, you just don't like the name "Destiny" (and I agree w/ you on that). See if there are names from both sides of the family that you can agree on. If he is not going to be part of the child's life, then you absolutely pick the name.
Congratulations on your blessing, and good luck!
2007-03-05 05:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use Destiny as a middle name or first but call her by the name you give her. Since the 2 of you are not married and dont intend to be it would be less confusing for the child to have your last name! But nothing wrong with giving her his either.
2007-03-05 06:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by HOT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like Destiny at all, but everyone has different taste. If he plans to be in the child's life, he should have some say. But even if you were together and you didn't like the name he did you would both have to pick something different.
I can't believe you would even consider giving her his last name!! You are the only parent as of now when it comes to last name
2007-03-05 05:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 08:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to deal with this man for 18 plus years
I think you may consider using Destiny for the middle
You are giving her you last name, give him the middle
You pick the first
This may make your life easier.
Congratulations on your daughter
2007-03-05 05:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always used to think my ex was a "good man, just a sucky boyfriend," i actually said the same thing. Hopefully in your case you are right...I would give her any name you want, if you don;t like Destiny don;t use it, and give her any last name you want.
2007-03-05 05:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by juniormintsrock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad situation in general, but ultimately I think that you should pick a name that you like. At this point, you don't know for sure if he will or will not be involved in this baby's life after she is born. In my opinion, she is going to be your daughter until he proves that he does want to be a part of her life as well and you should name her what you would like.
2007-03-05 05:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were still together I would not recommend using a name you don't like. You could use it for a middle name still if you want to appease him but other then that I say NO!
2007-03-05 05:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he left, then YOU name her.
he could still file for her name to be his last name, my friend was ordered by the court to give her child the father's last name when he was 2 yrs old, even though they were not ever married & not together, and they had agreed to give him her last name on the birth certificate.
2007-03-05 05:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋