So i met this guy not to long ago over the internet and we hit it off right away. We had a lot in common and we had great and extremely long conversations about all kinds of things.
We finally decided to meet and have hung out quite a few times since then. So of course you're all wondering if we slept together and the answer would be yes. Not right away but we did.
Everything has been going great and I thought we were very open with each other about what we were looking for. Both of us want a relationship and can see ourselves with one another but we both want to take it slow and not rush into anything serious.
So what's the problem? The problem is that he says the sweetest things to me and melts my heart with his words. He told me that he could see himself loving me. A few days later I told him the same and I feel like every since that day things have been weird between us. He doesn't call as much and he seems so nonchalant about us now.
Any insights????
2007-03-05 05:15:43 · 5 answers · asked by Ms. CityKitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention that while he was expressing to me that he was starting to like me but I was still a little skeptical. He told me that he really wants to know how I feel about him and that it's important that if I like him I act like it and I show. So now that I'm acting like I like him and showing I feeling like he's pulling back.
2007-03-05 05:19:30 · update #1
For some instinctual reasons, guys like and NEED conquests. (it's like hunting) Once the conquest (kill) is made, the guy goes off with his hunting buddies and gloats about it......preparing for the next hunting trip.
I suspect that your inclinations about this are correct, but it wouldn't hurt to give it just a little more time. He MAY come to actually love you, even though right now, it seems unlikely.
2007-03-05 05:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, well, first thing is to talk with him, since you say that you are very open with each other. I would just say Hey is everything ok with us? Or just seat him down and tell him how you have been feeling and what the deal is? One thing I have noticed with men, that they dont pay to much attention to seeing us and all that.......unless they are horny.....lol...sad but true. I had the same problem with a guy. I just asked him and turns out that it was nothing to do with me, but he was glad that I said something b/c he did not even notice that he was not calling as much or whatever. Just talk with him and if he still seems nonchalant about it.........move on!! Life is to short!!
PS...just read the additional notes....now he may be playing games, so definitely talk with him. But like I said if he still wants to act nonchalant about it......move on and dont call him again. See if he even notices.......
2007-03-05 13:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people over the internet is risky business and how much can you learn about a person over the internet. I would suggest meeting someone you can actually see and talk with because body language means alot when you are out. This guy could be a total wierdo.
2007-03-05 13:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing with your mind and playin games with you~ trust me i had a guy like that and it was NOT GOOD! they will end up dumping you fast!!
2007-03-05 13:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he either met someone else....is bz....or is scared to commit
talk to him and tell him how u feel
2007-03-05 13:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋