If your are not happy in a relationship why settle. Why not just leave? Does love hold that much over emotions?
2007-03-05 05:12:00 · 18 answers · asked by Tea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sadly it's human nature, i am myself wondering what make people to turn they eye off from what they have and cheat to someone who they love and they get loved. There can be many reasons for cheating, but no reason can ever justify cheating....
2007-03-05 05:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by sha m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).
In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.
Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people, IMO. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two choices.
I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.
For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.
I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.
2007-03-05 05:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often, people who cheat rather leave their current relationship do so because they are insecure. They are fearful that the person they are cheating with is untrustworthy to start a long term relationship with (since they obviously cheat) and their own lack of self confidence believes that they will never find someone else so they want to hold to what they have. Even though it does not bring them any happiness, it does provide a level of security that they are unable to relinquish.
2007-03-05 05:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people cheat because they like the thrill of it. It's nice being in a relationship, but most long-term relationships cannot provide you with the adrenalin rush that a new encounter brings. So, people try to find their way around it. It's not that they're "not happy" in a relationship - in fact, they are usually happy enough to want to stay in it - but they also want to try and capture that sense of excitement that is missing in a comfortable long-term relationship. Most people who go climbing Mount Everest don't want to stay in Tibet, they come home to their permanent reality. I'm not sure what's so hard to understand here.
2007-03-05 05:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that someone is not happy in a relationship...as far as guys cheating its more a i came, i saw, i conquered thing...cheating has almost become a norm in any relationship...as hard as it is to find a girlfriend or boyfriend people just dont wanna pack up and leave, its not everyday you can find a relationship
2007-03-05 05:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by mark h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat because they like a change and adventure...........it has nothing to do with love.........of course the person that cheat doesn't like to think about the consequences after, and the responsibility that comes from commitment........in other words they are being irresponsible .
2007-03-05 05:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mark N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 Ego
2) Lack of Respect
Those who cheat, have NO Love. Love is something that wouldn't allow them to cheat. It's just Lust.
2007-03-05 05:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat for all kinds of reasons and sometimes it can be for one thing or many. They cheat because of insecurity, commitment in relationships, low self-esteem, no common sense. negative attitude and others.
2007-03-05 05:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with you. If you don't want to be with the person you are with, leave! It doesn't make sense to stay in a realtionship that is going no where. I guess people like the risk. or sense of danger. mainly they need to grow up
2007-03-05 05:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Krista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will love to know that. but i think that people do it at least once in their life time. there are many reasons why they do but i wish peole just tell their partner they want to move on , it will hurt less than being cheat on. i think like this (if i don't want someone to do it to me then i am not doing it to them)
2007-03-05 05:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by sweet angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋