I've noticed this in almost every relationship I've had. Women always seem to have this need to stay in contact with guys they've slept with in the past. Case in point: My current girlfriend. She still talk to her ex of six years. That doesn't really bother me. But.....she had a fling that lasted a couple of weeks with this guy in Costa Rica while she was with her ex so she cheated on him with this guy. She still talks to him on the phone, emails and texts him too. Even right in front of me! Ladies, a little help here. Should I feel weird about this or am I just overreacting?
2007-03-05 05:10:29 · 19 answers · asked by kungfumasterzod 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darling you are definately not overreacting!!! I'm a girl and I keep in touch with men (will explain later) but what she is doing is unacceptable. You need to either talk to her real fast or just drop her...seriously! It's true that girls do a lot of things for a lot of different reasons that sometimes they can't even explain but your girl is too much! If you don't want to be cheated on, stop her now!!! If she doesn't respond to your pleas to stop this nonsense, I'm sure she wouldn't like it too much if you start going out with other girls...or she might use that as an excuse for her to start seeing other men at which point it's game over! So my advice just drop her!
Now, let me explain why girls keep in touch with exes...the thing is that your girl probably likes being taken care of, likes the security of being with you, or is so independent, is so proud of it that she thinks her s**t doesn't stink (no offence) and more than anything likes being the center of attention! Either way, she keeps in touch with ex partners cos she wants to make sure she always has someone who will like her and listen to her and make her feel like a queen. In other words, in case things don't work out with you two, she will always have a plan B, C, D etc. That's OK cos most girls are like that...at least in my experience...and there is really nothing wrong with it, but the way she is doing it is way too obvious and out in the open...most girls don't let their bf notice that they are conversing with their exes...your girl seems to have no regard for your emotions and you really should drop her cos she obviously doesnt care about you too much. See, most likely if you talk to her, she will say you are infringing on her freedom and make a big deal out of it so in the end you will feel like the bad guy. But you don't seem to be one so you don't deserve this kind of disrespect. So, just drop her...hope this helped!
2007-03-05 05:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons:
1 To stay in contact is to make the sex feel like it was not just a one night stand, not something cheap.
And/ or
2 to have someone to fall back on if other relationships do not work out
2007-03-05 13:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women do this so they can have guys "on a string" for a last-munite booty call when things go sour with the person they are with. I have an ex that tries to get in contact with me every time things go south with her fiance. She doesn't get the fact that I'm getting married this summer and don't want to have anything to do with her.
If I were you brother RUN!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 13:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by The Bat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell her the truth how you really feel about it but you have to warn her that you have no problem with it at all, just inform her that how you feel about it. Check on her if you should trust her about it that she still contact with her exes. If she tells you no worries then all you have to let it go, if something happen, then you will learn your lesson for next time.
2007-03-05 13:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your overreacting I don't keep in contact with any one I slept with or any ex's If I see them I would say Hi but I don't call them and stuff
2007-03-05 13:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by sara69251 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, I just cant seem to say goodbye to people. To anybody, whether it be an old childhood girlfriend, or a guy I had a quick fling with. Talking to them doesn't mean I intend to sleep with them again, it just means: "Hey...we tried something out, it didn't work...let's just be friends". If you're not enemies, theres no need to cut people out of your life. The people you cut out should be the people who hurt you, or are bad people.
2007-03-05 13:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should feel weird...my advice....ditch the bit-ch.....I have never had a girl do that to me. I honestly have to say, that if she is doing this, she may not be all that interested in you. Sorry to say that, but if the shoe fits.......
What I cannot understand is how a guy, or girl, would tolerate that. Have a little more respect for yourself and find someone who respects you.
2007-03-05 13:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still keep in contact with guys that I've slept with. Mostly because we were friends to begin with. And it's was like a "friends with benefits" factor.
2007-03-05 13:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by justuraverageperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be concerned. If her relationship with him was just a fling, then don't you think she should lower the communication level. Just casually ask her sometimes what they talk about, and pay attention if she gets nervous or defensive. That should help you decide on your actions.
2007-03-05 13:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by mzsmartypantz00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak with other women...yet, for me, whether I've slept with a guy or not...if I don't see him anymore and especially if I don't have any interest or anything in common with him, I DON'T stay in touch with the guy.
As a general rule...Any guy I've ever dated / slept with in the past ...I haven't stayed in touch with him.
2007-03-05 13:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋