can i trust my boyfriend again? he cheated on me when i was away for vacation... i caught him. it was not jst an ordinary date with a girl but it was more than a date. he asked for second chance and gave him another chance ....he said he was sorry for what he did and promised it will never happen again ... i love him so much but i dont trust him - and he knows that ..... im always paranoid and im always doubting him.. we've been together a year already - jst gave him another chance coz i really love him. he is showing that he is ok with me right now, but i dont know if he is really sincere, i dont know - i cant tell -
2007-03-05 04:56:45 · 12 answers · asked by pebblesC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are right, now right you are not trust him because of what he did to you. If you need give it more times and make him prove you more and more that he won't do it again. He has to accept the fact that it wont be easy to trust him again. He needs to face you every time that you are worth to him and he won't cheat on you. Be careful.
2007-03-05 05:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is apparent that he has lost your trust one time it takes time to earn that back from someone that you lost it from, If he was sincere in his apology for cheating and sincere about not cheating on you again, then you have something that you can base all the trust you want to have for him on. You love him a lot and that is why you gave him another chance, if you did not love him or care for him then you would have gave him another chance. You want to know if he will be faithful to you and you have to start communicating with him more and looking at the signs, it is not really all that hard, don't make it difficult then it already is. You and him can work it out as it sounds like it can be fixed, just remember one step at the time and don't rush things.
2007-03-05 05:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be able to trust him again. If you feel you must give him another chance then it's your choice. BUT to make it work you have to decide to trust again. Just choose to believe what he says.
I couldn't do that. If you are having so much trouble maybe it isn't worth it. Reconsider if you really want to chance it again. You caught him, he didn't confess. What would have happened had you not caught him? What will happen next time? You are brave if you decide to stay but consider everything invovled.
2007-03-05 05:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you, and you forgave him and are still w/ him, then he probably gets the idea that if he ever did it again, you would just forgive him and go on like you have been. once somebody cheats, they are more likely to cheat again if you are just sending them the message that its "ok". and you caught him, thats how you knew about his unfaithfulness, he didn't tell you, so obviously he didn't feel guilty about betraying you. i don't think you should trust him so easliy and let him know that you dont. and you may love him, but he doesn't really love you. he's a jerk. you don't deserve to be cheated on, no one does. if he tels you that he still loves you, it a bunch of crap because he doesn't fully love you
2007-03-05 05:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by sara r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men is not trustworthy..if he cheated you once and he said that he is sorry for what he did well think again girl..maybe he looks sincere but if you doubt his actions and his words maybe it is the time you let him go..you can find another man who can love you for what you are and one who you can trust when you are not around..i know you love him but he cheated you..
2007-03-05 05:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by graze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, chances are he isn't sincere. Take it for what it is and stop wasting your time on loving a man that's unloveable! You will see that another better man is out there just for you.
2007-03-05 05:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. well i mean i think you should break up, you sound young, and once a cheater, always a cheater. next time your not home for a few days he will most likely do it again, if you dont want to break up jsut yet... try looking for new guys, just seeing whats out there, you might find someone alot better =) try to just have some space, dont get so deep inlove, you might be setting yourself up for a fall, good luck!
2007-03-05 05:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way it can work is if you can find a way to for give him.Just been careful if he does it again then that should be the last chance you give him.but if you show you don't trust him then you could push him into some one Else's arms.
2007-03-05 05:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by looking1964 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Proceed with caution, but now all the cards are on the table and if he truly loves you, it won`t happen again. I`m all about second chances.
2007-03-05 05:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no , he cheated on u he wasn't sorry until he got caught there is no love without trust
2007-03-05 05:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋