I have been off and on with a great guy for about 3 years now. We always mutually agreed there would be no serious commitment between us. At this time we are "on". I know in the long run, as much as I want it to and as much as I love him, it will never work out between us. Yes I said love.... I know he has love for me but does not love me in the same sense of the word. I met another really great guy about a month ago and want to persue a relationship with him.
How do I tell him we can't see eachother anymore without killing the long standing friendship we have?
2007-03-05 04:40:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First things first. Do you want to end the relationship for the new guy you met or because of commitment issues? If the answer is commitment issues yes you should end but if your answer is that new guy i advice to hold on till you really figure what you want from a relationship.
How to end it? You must first sit in a room where there are no other distractions. Discuss how you feel and tell him straight that you want to break up because of commitment issues.Use words that carefully. Don't use phrases that blames him. Dont play the blame game here in this conversation.Afer the news he will either freak out or sit silently to digest the news. Take time and listen what he says. If he over reacts or started to lash out uncomfortable words tell him that you understand and you will come back to talk about this the next day or give him a call few hours later. This way hopefully he thinks you still care about him as a friend. Also tell him you don't expect to be besties with him after the break up that you both will start back the friendship slowly.
2007-03-05 04:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just talk to him and tell him what he means to you, but u think its better just as real good friends cus u really appreciate his friendship. If he loves you like u say, he'll understand and u'll still be good friends.
2007-03-05 04:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that after a three years "on and off" relationship, it's gonna be hard on him.... plus when he finds out you're dumping him to pursue someone else.... he's going to be crushed. you can probably rule out any friendship with him after. but you have to do what's right for you, and if you see yourself being happier with this other guy, you should do it. you the one who has to live your life, you should try to be as happy as you can.
2007-03-05 06:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋