Wedding WAS set for Sept 1st. (we have been dating for 2yrs)He called off wedding Sat night, on Sunday i broke up with him. His reason for calling off wedding is "I am not ready-meaning me, not him". Now since i broke up with him, he wants to call the wedding back on. Says if he wouldve known i would leave him, he wouldnt called it off to began with. He rather not lose me. What should i do? I partially want to get married because i am pregnant and want to be a family, and have told everyone i am getting married, the other half....I just really dont want to be with him after this weekend after the nasty comments he made to me in front of his friends and he has made me realized some things about him. We haved talked last night i am stuck with my answer, no we are not getting back together, but this morning he has callled saying he doesnt want to lose me and he is sorry and lets get married. Any advice?
2007-03-05 04:34:08 · 14 answers · asked by Nicole B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree w/ java
you should really think about it honey....on 1 hand he prob scared and on the other it maybe all coming to fast for him...if hes a good man dont let him go b/c of one disagreement. everybody get cold feet...he already know what he lost so that means he really dose love you....stick with him...not just for the baby but b/c you really want to make it work w/ the person you love
2007-03-05 04:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to tackle is whether or not it's a good idea to get back together with him. At this point I think marriage is not the answer - baby or not. If he would do something like that to you, in front of his friends - show boating like that - then what's to stop him from doing it after you are married and the baby comes. What did he think would happen when he called off the wedding? That'd you say "okay" and continue to just date him? No marriage = no relationship, otherwise what would be the point. I think you to need to seek a counselor and really sit down and hash out what you both want out of the relationship. Put any wedding plans you've made on hold (make sure to cancel anything that you've put a deposit on because the longer you wait, the less money you get back). Good luck.
2007-03-05 12:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you sound like you are ready to get married. Getting married is huge. It is a lifetime comittment and if there are doubts before it even happens, then maybe you should wait a little while longer. A baby isn't a reason to get married at all. Sometimes, it just makes it harder in the long run, especially for the baby. Think it through. You have to ask yourself if you can really picture being with him for the rest of your life. Through the good times and the bad. There will be more bad than good most of the time. Marriage is hard, it is not easy. Especially with a new baby. It wouldn't hurt to seek counciling though, either with a therapist or your minister or even a couple that has been married for 30 years. If it were me and I had any doubts and it sounds like he has some, I don't think I would be in a hurry to get married.
2007-03-05 12:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by fastdrver27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him. Ask him why does he want to get married and why he called it off in the first place.
Also, makes sure you are getting married for the right reasons, such as you love him truly and know you would go the mile for him and likewise, and also that you have a general understanding of eachother and that no matter what you won't just break up the 2 yr bond you've had just on a whim.
2007-03-05 12:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make an immediate decision. I suggest you wait for another 2 weeks and think more about what happened. If telling everyone that you're married to the man who got you pregnant is THE only reason why you want to get back with him, think twice.
2007-03-05 12:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married Just because you are preg is dumb
Marriage is a long term committment that should not be entered into lightly
Besides Divorce costs too much as well
Child support can be paid to you whether U are married or not
however that will require DNA test and court time/papers and thats no guarantee he will pay
Good luck
2007-03-05 12:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by caretaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to suffered a little bit of embarassament than to deal with a heartache for the rest of your life.
Take some time for yourself and really evaluate your life. Think about your future, the future of your baby and what this relationship means to you.
If you love him try to work things out - but overall, do whats best for YOU and YOUR baby.
2007-03-05 12:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by jm3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was angry and didnt mean what he said. He sounds immature, and you shouldnt call off something as important as a wedding off in front of people. That's private. Maybe you should focus on developing a relationship w/ him and then maybe marriage (later)
(Sorry)
2007-03-06 12:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your man is playing you. He wants to keep you, but he has someone else, too, I will bet. He wants to be FREE when it is convenient for him. But, when he gets his PLAY TIME over with, then he wants to get all serious about you. He sounds like a real loser.
2007-03-05 12:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry him because u are pregnant and he is selfish nd mean too so think how your life will be with him after this all i don't think very well but it is Ur call so think well and decide.
2007-03-05 12:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋