My daughter has been brought up in the Methodist church and her fiance's family has always been Catholic. He has never been very active in the Catholic church and plans to join the Methodist church were they will be married. His family is putting alot of pressure on him and he is very confused. What are the beliefs of the Catholics on marrying outside their faith????
2007-03-05 04:31:06 · 10 answers · asked by MS Lady 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My whole family is Catholic but me.
Honestly, none of them really seem to care.
Though the church prefers if you both are Catholic. If you want to get married in a full Catholic mass (guh... complete with a very very very long cereomy. Think HOURS), you both have to be Catholic so she'd have to convert. They will make you agree to bring any children up Catholic, regardless. And you may get pressure from the church (but not neccesarily the family) for her to convert.
Honestly, if he's going to join the Methodists anyway, then he needs to put his foot down and say "Thats enough" to his family.
Family puts pressure on family members. Its what they do. All families do it. So its very hard to say no when you love them. But there comes a point at which you have to live for yourself, instead of living for others.
2007-03-05 04:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Catholic cannot validly marry outside the Catholic Church. A Catholic is not validly married unless a Catholic priest or deacon receives their vows. However, marriages between Catholics and people of other faiths are fairly common, and are accepted as valid if a Catholic priest or deacon officiates. If you want all the "ins and outs" of it, you can consult Canon Law, the official rulings of the Church on a variety of matters. You can find it here:
http://www.ourladyswarriors.org/canon/
Scroll down to Book 4, Section VII, and you will find all the Catholic Church's requirements and disciplines regarding marriage.
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2007-03-05 04:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would your family feel about your daughter converting? Consider that when you deal with the son -in-law and his parents. Just because he is not very religious does not mean his family is not. There is no reason that the marriage can not work out but people must understand what everybody is dealing with for things to go well. Tribble Maker is not a Catholic and the saint with a German shepard represents a radical form our faith that I have never been exposed to in person. We are Christians so I think things can be worked out so that both sides of the family are happy.
2007-03-05 04:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason is because the Catholic church views Marriage as one of the seven sacraments. For this reason; your daughter and her fiance have what is called a 'mixed marriage', that is; though baptized does not profess the Catholic faith. The Chruch does not (and therefore the family) encourage mixed marriages because they consider it dangerous for the soul. And, frankly; it is.
Think of it in this terms: What if your daughter was marrying a Buddist...she loved him tons, what would after a period of time possibly occur? Most likely she would abandon the faith you brought her up in and completely lose sight of the one goal in life: (and in marriage) assisting each other in getting to Heaven.
Frankly, I would ask you to prayfully consider supporting the fiance's family and discourage this union.
The fiance in his confirmation swore an oath, a vow to God--no less--that he would live and abide by all the teachings of the Catholic church, and this marriage is unfortunately against it.
I realize that you may not like my answer. Not fun. But I offer it in complete charity.
Many Blessings
2007-03-05 04:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle_My_Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is one of the Sacraments of the Catholic Church, therefore in the eyes of the church, the marriage is considered invalid if they are not married by a Catholic priest or deacon. If he marries outside the Catholic Church he will not be able to receive any of the other sacraments.
God bless,
Stanbo
2007-03-05 04:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Stanbo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the fiance gets married outside of the Catholic faith, he is basically abandoning his faith and is no longer in good standing with the catholic Church and is not able to receive any of the sacraments.
I think you can now understand why his family is placing a lot of pressure on him.
2007-03-05 05:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have an aunt who married a Catholic. (She is a Baptist.)
At the time the policy was:
It's OK -- PROVIDED any and all children are brought up as Catholics. The non-Catholic spouse is free to practice their religion as long as they don't pass it on to the kids!
She went off to church on her own while the rest of the family went to mass on Sunday.
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2007-03-05 04:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catholics are supposed to marry only catholics.
2007-03-05 04:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tribble Macher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it should NOT be attempted. marrying a non-catholic, a FALSE christian, is an abomination in the eyes of God. it is heresy!
2007-03-05 04:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by San Antonio de Malarque 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think taylordesigns has it right. Give her the ten points.
2007-03-05 08:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋