about how they still think about you ask if you have met anyone new then ok you end up having a lil phone sex then he said he feels a lil guilty cuz hes with this new girl he is supposedly marrying this summer(we were together for 7 years but we wanted to work on our careers first and get a house and things like that) now it seems like they dont care about any of that anymore him and this new girl have only been dating for about 8 months ok so the other girl found out about what he said to me and she confronted me and i told her exactly what he said and she thinks im lying and he isnt denying what he said all he is telling me is that he was trying to ease our break up for me and i am pretty sure i didnt ask him to do that and i didnt call him out of the blue he called me is this all some psychological issue on his part like he thinks he knows what he wants but he isnt sure or do people really act this way
2007-03-05 04:29:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok again i never said anything to him i didnt cry or say i was sad or anything he called me up after a few weeks of not talking and those words came out of his mouth i didnt put them there....and if he is so happy in his new relationship im pretty sure he wouldnt have to call his ex and have phone sex with...thank you
2007-03-05 04:36:43 · update #1
Now you should be able to clearly see what kind of man he is. He is NOT ready to marry anybody!!!! Let go of him. Forget about him. He isn't grown up yet. You can feel sorry for the gal he is marrying, and be thankful it isn't you. He is just remembering old days, and wants to recapture some of those memories. Give him a couple or three nights with you, and OFF HE WILL GO, back to this other gal. It doesn't matter if you were togethe seven years or seventy years....he does not know how to be faithful. If he calls again, YOU need to show him that YOU have grown up. NO phone sex. No sex. No talking behind his new girls' back. As a matter of fact, I would just hang up on the fool.
2007-03-05 04:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys act this way. He may want to ensure that you're still 'waiting in the wings' in the event that the new relationship doesn't work out. It sounds like he's playing both of you...and quite well I might add. I'll bet he enjoyed the drama that this little discussion caused. Keep in mind that he had fun with the phone sex before he disclosed his new relationship. You're not even mad about it. You''re just wondering why he makes everything so confusing. The feeling guilty language was indeed a nice touch--do you believe that too?! He is a good manipulator, but he can only do this successfully if you cooperate.
2007-03-05 12:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wanted phone sex. As long as you provide that, he will keep calling.
2007-03-05 12:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by chip t 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, he's not worth the bother.
EDIT:
I would'nt have phone-sex with an engaged man.
2007-03-05 12:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being sensitive about you.
He is also being very stupid letting the other girl to know what he is telling you.
You are not listening to him.....
2007-03-05 12:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mark N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's calling you and you getting all affected by all these means he's still got you. And oh boy, ego boost!
2007-03-05 12:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Katia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are a bug in his web of games
2007-03-05 12:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey let's play a game......
He tells her what he wants her to hear, and tells you what he wants you to hear.
2007-03-05 12:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋