Last week I had a miscarriage. I was 12 wks pregnant. I was just in for my next monthly check-up. The doctor couldn't find a heart beat. So sent me for a ultrasound. The baby wasn't moving and thier was no heart beat. The next day I had a D&C. I have cried so much. I grew attached to that little baby that was growing inside of me. Now it is all gone. My doctor told me that you are more "prime" after a miscarriage. We go for a follow up next week. If he gives us the OK should i try to have another baby? He said I am healthy and see's no reason that I shouldn't be able to have a baby. Right now the only way I see myself getting over this is to get pregnant. Any advice?
2007-03-05 04:27:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh honey, I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. I lost my first baby at 10 weeks and had a D&C also. That was in May, 1998 and I still remember the fear and sadness I felt. People kept telling me I would have more babies and I was healthy, etc. My baby would have been born on December 1, 1998 and I think of that date every year. I went on to give birth to a healthy baby boy in July, 1999, but my doctor told me to wait at least 3 months before trying again, but we didn't. I was like you, I needed something to fill that empty space. With your doctor's advice and what your body and emotions tell you, you'll know when it's time to try again. Just a word to the wise, although I was happy to be pregnant again, I was very scared until we got past the first ultrasound that showed the heartbeat. Maybe a support group would help you now and during your next pregnancy if you have some fears. It's okay to think of that lost baby now and in the future. I look at my 7 year old son now so full of life, but every December 1, 1998 I pause and think of what if and why..My husband bought me a diamond tear drop necklace soon after the miscarriage and I wore it everyday. When my son was born, I added his birthstone and still wear the necklace. There is no easy way to get over a miscarriage, but if you want to email me and chat, I'll listen. Good luck...lmselasky@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 17:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by l s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say I am sorry for your loss, you need to wait a few months before getting pregnant, First off because your body needs time to heal from the D&C they scrap your uterine wall and any doctor that tells you to go ahead now is the wrong doctor! and second, you need time to grieve and heal from your loss, You will get pregnant again and have a successful pregnancy, just look at it, that something was not right with the baby, I know that doesn't take the pain away, but give yourself a couple more months I would hate to see you go through this again.
2007-03-05 12:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my twins in that way as well. I had to have a D&C too. I know how you feel. My situation was way different then yours I was 6 months along and had names and all. I found out they were fighting for food and the bigger of the two killed his brother. and the second one to die had died from his brother rotting in his sack (identical twins). Well I have two wonderful kids now and they are 5 and 7. this took me years and years to get over and celabrate the day of my D&C with their dad. I would have never had kids if it wern't for him. I suggest you have your husband/boyfriend or family help you deal with your loss so you can move on.
If your doctor tells you you can have another baby then go for it as long as you can deal with another loss cause that can happen as well. Good Luck on making a new life.
2007-03-05 12:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arizona Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. if you feel that it is ok to have a baby then do it. my dr said that after your first normal period after a miscarriage then you can try, but it depends on if you are ready or not. im sorry for your loss and hope that this helps good luck
2007-03-05 12:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by ladidadida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat as you. i miscarried a little bit earlier though. i am eager to get started again too. i feel the same way as far as getting pregnant will help me to get over the pain of losing a baby. not that i want to replace the child i lost, but to give me something positive to focus on. good luck and i hope you get what you want!!
2007-03-06 14:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by momma to 3 handsome boys! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel ready to try for another baby go ahead, it might help you get over the loss of the first. Good luck
2007-03-05 12:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by sara69251 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that this happened to you. I have had 2 misscarrigias myself and I know how you feel. Do you you feel is best but just remember that having another baby will NOT replace the one you lost. You are always going to be sad about that. I suggest you give yourself time to mourn before you try again.
2007-03-05 12:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you are ready to start trying again after this next check up.
2007-03-05 12:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nature eliminates a fetus if not viable. It prevented a sick child from being born. Rejoice and try again, hopefully with healthier results.
2007-03-05 12:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋