I started dating a guy, he is funny, handsome, single, has a good job and so on. We slept together last Friday and it was an awful situation. He didn't know how to use a condom!! I asked him to wear it, because of our security, and he was so frustrated trying to put it on, that I started laughing.... By the moment he has it, I was cold, and the passion was over. Even that, we had sex, and while we were together, he kept complaining about the sensation he feels while wearing it. I was so bored, he was so mad, so, completely disaster. We left the hotel, since we weren't doing anything, and all the way home, he kept complaining about the same thing. I cannot be with someone new without a condom, and I don't really know what to do. He is pretty cool, but he acted like a jerk. What should I do? Should I give him a second chance or just walk away?
2007-03-05 04:27:13 · 24 answers · asked by marylapana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to tell you, guys, he had a girfriend for 9 years or something like that, so he told me that is the reason he is not used to wear condoms.
2007-03-05 04:29:04 · update #1
He may have never used one with any of his girlfriends. I think it is great that you were being responsible. It does sound a little odd that he could not get it on. But it could have been nerves. I would wait a suitable amount of time before trying again. Next time, help him. Give him a ******* and make sure that it is very hard and then get the condom open the package up. do not open in the middle. (Make sure the condom has not been tampered with, or in his wallet or refridegator) (This could lead to breakage) Get the condom and wrap it on his penis, slide the condom down. After you get the condom all the way to the base of the penis, pull (not to hard) at the tip of the penis (this allows the *** to stay put without breaking the condom). And ask him if it is comfortable. He may try to say that the condom is uncomfortable b/c he just does not want to wear one. Remain firm condoms are a little uncomfortable, but better safe than sorry. Tell him no sex unless it is on. Just make sure to give him some more perks since he is being great by wearing one. Good luck and be safe!!
2007-03-05 04:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Aron H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 44 and never wore a condom. Quite possibly he was being a jerk because he was angry with himself/performance. The last thing a guy wants to do is screw up the first time with a woman, and that may lead to a little anger. Give him a second chance. I wouldn't judge everything because of that
2007-03-05 04:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...it sometimes happen for men to be in a difficulty when it comes to wear condoms. His difficulty of putting on a condom can be justified by the fact that he never had sex with a condom on. It's very difficult to put a condom on if you've had sex without one! Not to talk about the sensation!!! He had to feel very very VERY uncomfortable with it on!
I don;t know what to say...My advice for you would be to think well about giving him a second chance or not. Think about what you like most about him, him in general, or him in bed... :)
2007-03-05 04:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by boy_out_of_hell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's some SH*%, The way i look at it is if you dont have a good time the first time, why waste any more time. Because statistically its not going to get any better. Im not sure how old you are or how long you have been looking but for me i will not just settle for someone or something(average Sex) there is no reason that you cant or wont find someone who is way more compatible with you and your style.
2007-03-05 04:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ttech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like this man, why dont you go on the pill? or teach him how to use a condom. as funny as it sounds you should help him. and being with a gf for 9 yrs. its not an excuse to not know how to use a condom.
2007-03-05 04:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by DI@n@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condoms are pretty easy to figure out. I knew how to use one when I was 14. He was probably acting as if he didn't know how to/and acting upset that you wanted him to wear one simply because he thought you'd say "well, we can do it without one." If he REALLY didn't know how to use one, he's a moron and you're better off without him. Actually, you're better off without him anyhow if he's getting some from you, but complains!
2007-03-05 04:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by blamb! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. If he's a jerk and won't wear a condom...you're better off losing the guy. Your health is at stake.
2007-03-05 04:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to forget how to put on a condom , however I think he's learned his lesson.
As for you , forget the condom fiasco and concentrate on the guy , is he worth it ? .
I have a feeling he whines a lot.
2007-03-05 04:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion there is something wrong with that picture if he don't know how to use one and he's 36 years old. Just be honest and talk to him and tell him what do you think about that. If he's the one for you he will understand.
2007-03-05 04:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Blair26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there you go he never needed one. its not the same you know . try wearing latex gloves for a while and see if you like that.
as for gettting to like the sex bit more then just work at it with him . talk . sex is 90% mental so not talking is unwise.
2007-03-05 04:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋