How far should a person go for love?

Question

Love is suppose to be unconditional and there aren't no limits, right? I'm 19 and im dating a guy who's 51 ( I know the whole age thing is a big diffrence ) but if you like someone and connect with them then its not a issue, however, I have a daughter who's almost 2 years old and he loves her to pieces and im pregnant ( 38 weeks ) with my 2nd ( not his ) and he has been so supportive with me through alot, Even with my pregnancy , However I don't feel to SEXY with my big pregnant belly, and he is like you'll lose it, ..I just feel like he won't love me or as much if I keep my wweight, and love is suppose tp be unconditional? sometimes I joke around that, would you still be with me if I kept all my weight on after the baby and he is like * lets hope that doesn't happen * ...and give me a smile as if to say it won't happen....How do I know if he loves me unconditionally?

Answer 1

i know you wont want to hear this BUT why are you with a 51 year old man at 19?

yes we know older men are usually better for you but not 30 year your senior

why arnt you with either of the fathers of your children? if your pregnant how are you meeting men?

forget about men for now and concentrate on your children,they should be the most important thing in your life not a 51 year old man

Answer 2

I am not sure what you actual question is. Is is "How far should a person go for love?" or is it"How do Iknow if he loves me uncomditionally?" As you are 38 weeks I gather the hidden message is not whether to abort the child so as to not have any baby fat to lose, whic is a relief, I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW GLAD I AM THAT IS NOT YOUR QUESTION. As your questiion reads, I just do not see that you have to do anything immediately, you don't have any decions you HAVE to make. Of course a 51 year old man (whther he has been married before or not & whether or not he has any kids of his own or not) he still knows that a woman who gives birth to a baby will not immediately go back to her pre-birth weight. After you have your baby and after you have given your body adequate amount of time to rest, you should begin an exercise routine & you should just eat healthy, but you should do this for you, your own health & for your children, NOT SO THAT A MAN, ANY MAN, REGARDLESS OF HIS AGE WILL LOVE YOU. You already have one child so you know that it will take time to lose the weight, and it is important that you did it it the right way (which is not a quick fix) & not do anything unhealthy like go on any of those fad diets or cut out ALL CARBS etc.

The age issue appears to bother you, but that issue is between you and the man you love. Ultimatley only you know if this relationship can withstand the trials, obstical, etc. that will most definatley be in your path. Most people will tell you that the age difference is too much. I can not be a hypocrite, I am married to a man 25 years my senior and we have been togehter for ten years. We both agree however, that our relationship would not have worked had we tried it when I was in my early 20's (because at that age, you still have so many things in life that you have not yet done, and the older man has already lived through those stages. Another reason our relationship works is that I already have four kids form my prior marriage as does he. If however, When we married when I was 31 I would have wanted have children with him, then it WOULD NOT HAVE WORKED, BECAUSE HIS KIDS WERE ALL GROWN, HE WAS READY TO BE A GRANDFATHER, NOT A FATHER AND HE MADE THAT VERY CLEAR. So you have to address the really important issues with each other and make sure that you both want the same things out of life.

I sense that either he is very controlling or that you THINK he is too controlling, this oculd be a problem

The biggest problem i read (between the lines) in your question, is your insecurity. If you are so worried about something as minor as him not loving you if you keep some extra weight, you may not be secure enough with yourself yet to be in a relationship. There is no way to ever know if anyone will ever love us unconditionally forever, so it is extremey important that we love ourselves unconditionlly, take care of ourselves, know when a person is meeting our needs and when they are not. learn to be independant, do not rely on anyone, any man for your hapinees, your finacial securiy, the finacial security of your children. make sure that you are schooled, educated or trained in an are so that you can always work and support yourself and your kids. Have outside interest, keep your life, keep your friends, do not lose lose yourself. if you are happy & he is happy then the love can sustain. GOOD LUCK & CONGRATULATIONS

Answer 3

Unconditional love only counts with children. You are 19 years old and you are involved with a man who is 51. He has told you how he feels about "fat" women and you need to listen to him. His love for you is not unconditional due to if you don't lose the weight, you will lose him. You need to do what is best for your children, not for your man. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 4

That is ALWAYS going to be a problem with his age.
The thig is wen a yonger girl is with an older man, she is constantly wondering if he really lovers her, or if she's a young trophy girl.

If he has been with you through all of this, I'd say he loves you unconditionally.
Most guys don't tend to stick around when another man's baby is on the way, and he did, take comfort in that, But in order for the love to grow, you need to gain controll of your own confidance, that's what guys like is confidance, not T & A.
Be confidant with yourself, and he will gain confidance in the relationship. Also, let hm know that it's starting to get to you when he jokes by saying "let hopw that doesn't happen.
My boyfriend would make little jokes and after a while It started geting to me, so he stoped. It's okay, a lot of it is because of your hormones. Breath, and focus on the happieness when your in his presance.

Answer 5

He "loves" you because you're young and obviously easy to get. Try closing your overly greased legs for a while and maybe you'll actually find a real relationship. Any decent self respecting man wouldn't touch you with a 20 foot pole. You obviously like the pole so my advice is this...

Close your legs and use your brain instead of your hormones to make your decisions.

Don't mean to be mean but the only information I have is what you provided...

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Dude you are 19 and he is 51 he aint leaving you over some belly issue. I'm 37, believe me if a 19 year old girl took interest in me, she could gain weight, lose weight, who cares, I'm with a 19 year old girl. woohoo.

Answer 8

I think you should use your brain here. so in 10 years he will be on social security and probably won't be able to perform well and you will be 29. You should looks for someone closer to your age. But then again most relationships last about 10 years so maybe you should stay until the relationship runs its course

Answer 9

He loves you but when you fall in love you love all that you see and having a baby is very special and precious but after the baby you should want to go back to your regular size(as I hear alot of pre and post pregant women say)and it is just excercising and eating right, no guy can respect(but he will still love you)a women that doesn't want to put in effort to go back to her normal size.I mean what would you say if he became the same size after you went back to your regular size?

Answer 10

my god ?! are u serious ?
what about when u becmoe 40 years old ?
he will be then 70 years old
look my friend u should think alot about ur life because u seem destroying it by ur hands
why u accepted to have kids in this young age ?
are u ready to take care of 2 kids without their father?
i think u should seek for person in ur age and will love u at the same time and take care of ur kids
only in movies this words " love doesnt know any age "
but not in our life