I work for a consulting company and last week, there was a client visit, a guy, whom I had to take out for lunch and be with for the afternoon.
It wasn't a big deal, I have done these things before with no problems.
But this time I found the guy rather nice looking. However, I hope I din't let on how I felt. We were talking of politics at lunch as people do when they meet for the first time...He was all right except he seemed quite shy, and even embaressed.
Then he mentioned girlfriend totally out of context. Now this hurt me big time. Maybe I am being very sensitive here, but I couldn't stand the thought that he guessed I found him sweet and had to mention his gf to let me know he's not available.
But would a guy really think a woman is into him and he needs to tell her he's not available the first time he has met her and that in a work situation? I mean I din't honestly say anything flirty etc..
I feel insulted..waaaaah
2007-03-05 04:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by bourbon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy felt like you were coming onto him. So he threw the girlfriend word in there... ,maybe he really has one, but maybe he was just trying to give you a hint that he isnt interested. Sorry about your misfortune, but everyone has different likes and dislikes, or they are already taken.
2007-03-05 04:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were being very sensitive. This was just a client you took out for work. Just because he mentioned his gf out of context(tells you there is something up with him) should not mean a thing to you. So, no whining.
2007-03-05 12:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably making this a bigger deal than it actually is. I'm sure you weren't being flirty enough that he thought you were interested. He may have thought you were attractive so he's more reminding himself he's takin. I've done that. lol. Or it could be he was just being casual and mentioned it in coversation. Not really meaning to insult you at all.
2007-03-05 12:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by gi_jane_kicks_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel insulted. I make an effort to make sure that I mention my girlfriend no matter who I'm talking to or in whatever context; not only is it fair to my partner, but it is also fair to the person I am talking with.
He was just being true to himself and his girlfriend; you shouldn't look too much into it.
2007-03-05 12:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would hurt, and big time. I suppose a guy would do that, s he wouldn't exactly be saying I'm unavailable, don't try, and be nice by mentioning a gf. It will hurt, and be very uncomfortable, for some time...but you will be attracted to many more people, hopefully girlfriendless!sorry, I wish you the best!
2007-03-05 12:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by ursoolastsumer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing he shouldn't have mentioned the girlfreind...this was a business meeting and that shouldn't have even been brought up...and no it isn't wrong to think of a man as being cute at a business meeting ...you are human and have feelings..This guy is either stuck on himself
Just remain business like with him and see what happens
2007-03-05 12:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect him for bringing up his girlfriend. Maybe he got the vibe you were into him...and didn't want to give you the wrong impression that he was available. It's work. You do have the right to be disappointed, but not hurt or upset.
2007-03-05 12:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by bored_in_city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought you were flirting with him and you did say that "you thougt he was nice looking and hoped you didn't let it show." Well it did show and he did the right thing by letting you know he was taken.
Should you be insulted ? no. Be glad you didn't sleep with him and then find outt he has a girlfirend.
2007-03-05 12:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you would have preferred finding out about his girlfriend after a torid three month relationship? Relax!
2007-03-05 12:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this guy get you down. There are lots of other guys out there.
Sounds like he's a jerk. You deserve better.
2007-03-05 12:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋