My friend is dying of cancer- I don't know what to say to him.?

Answer 1

It's very hard for you both. But there's nothing wrong with saying
"I don't know what to say"

When I first started nursing (back in the mists of time) A tutor, when telling us how to deal with giving bad news, gave the advice
"when there's nothing to say say nothing"
Which I have always found to be good advice.

A touch,a squeeze of the hand or even a hug can speak volumes.

Answer 2

I don't know if you mean, he is sick or really dying with cancer. But i will say this, I lost a very good friend to Hodgkins, which is the most curable cancer there is, and he just wanted to keep living his life. He did eventually become so week he couldn't do much, but we just brought everything to him, the parties, the movies, you name it. He planned his own funeral, it was awesome. Everything was so touching and perfect, you could feel his presence in the church. You just knew he was okay. Don't treat your friend like he is sick, and don't talk about it unless he wants to talk about it. When I met my friend he was already sick, and he told me in his own time/way. We don't know when we will leave this world, not a definite date and time. Cancer has just made his dying more obvious. Remember the good times, and make many more.
My dad died from cancer. When he was diagnosed, it was already out of control, the first doctor refused to even treat him and would only say that he was terminal. The second doctor told him that he could only treat him, and hope to give him more months, never refered to years. My dad was a fighter and lived 1yr and 5 months after his initial diagnoses. He reached a point that he just wanted to enjoy his life. Give your friend this gift, happy times. That is the best thing you can do. Make a point of letting him know that you are there for him. There is really nothing you can say. You're sorry, well it isn't your fault. Just be a good friend.

Answer 3

Try getting him some cures. I mean, if it was my friend, I would never give up. What if you feel bad later because you didnt think you tried enough? Well, you get some cesium chloride with rubidium and DMSO, oxygen drops, ip6 pills, and fresh aloe vera plants. After you take the cesium chloride, remember to eat some bananas and/or potatoes to replenish the potassium you've lost. Oxygen drops helps your body take in more oxygen. Cancer cant live at the site of oxygen. IP6 pills take iron out of cancer cells. Iron is the building blocks of cancer. With the fresh aloe vera plant, you need to cut off the pricks. Then cut a chunk and throw it into the blender with vanilla ice cream. Drink this for like 2 weeks. This kills cancer and can very much cure your friend. It has been used in my country for the longest time. But some of these cancer cures, some work great, and some are a bit weak. But, if you put them together, combined, they will do great things for your friend. It will cost you less then 200 dollars for everything, and in your situation, I think its worth the shot. I make nothing out of this so dont worry about me conning you out of anything. Good luck bro...

Answer 4

I was told I was dying of cancer with 0% chance. Most all of my friends left. They didn't know what to say, so they avoided me. Well, I did make it in remission, 7 years now. If I happen to run into one of them, they just say to me I thought you had died or I didn't know what to say. I would tell them, Hello is a good place to start.
Just being there for him is all the words you need. Actions speak louder than words!
You're a great friend! You don't have to talk about the cancer. If the subject comes up, then you can talk about it with him. It's great to let him be able to express his feelings. Don't ever stop him from talking about it. If he's not sensative about talking about the cancer, there's nothing wrong with expressing your feelings either. I loved when my family would be open up to me and tell me how they were feeling.
Just be there for him and tell him what he means to you.

Answer 5

I would tell him that you feel lost for words and encourage him to talk. Treat him the same as you always have, he will probably prefer that rather than you skirting around his diagnosis and not mentioning the "C" word. I found out that I had thyroid cancer the year before last and whereas it isn't terminal I am still receiving treatment. Friends and family seemed to have more of a problem with the diagnosis than I did and people would think of every word they could rather than say "cancer".

Stay strong for your friend and encourage him all you can.

Answer 6

Tell him there is still hope.

Five hundred years ago, people said the world was flat. Today, people say that if the FDA and AMA haven't blessed something, it can't be real good. Well, here's something I know to be real AND good. It's a little different take on cancer treatment--

In 1990, I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma, stage 3-B, but I've survived. My doctors were great people, but they were limited to surgery, chemo and radiation by profitable AMA treatment policy. During the year in treatment, I started learning about alternative medicine. I'm a retired engineer, and this is what I've pieced together--our IMMUNE SYSTEMS become weakened by poor nutrition, lack of exercise and reduced oxygen. Once that happens, our body becomes vulnerable to common STRESSORS. Stressors can be environmental, like viruses, heavy metals, pesticides, food additives, electromagnetic waves or pollution. They can be internal things like emotional or job stress, or poisonous people in our lives. Aging is also a contributing factor. So this means:

WEAK IMMUNE SYSTEM + STRESSORS = DISEASE (cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.)

Our bodies have 60 trillion--yes, trillion--cells, and there are always some mutating into cancer cells, but a healthy immune system kills them before they have a chance to get a foothold in the body.

It takes a LONG time, usually, or a high level of stressors, to weaken the immune system to the point where it won't do its job, but once cancer has formed, it will generally spread rapidly.

THIS IS IMPORTANT! There are ways to BEAT cancer that are currently being used in Europe and around the world, and there are some great books on the subject. I know because I've read about 50 of them from cover to cover. Here's a list of the best ones. Some are out of print and getting hard to find--

"The Cure for All Cancers", ISBN 0963632825
"The Cure for All Advanced Cancers", ISBN 1890035165
"A Cancer Therapy", ISBN 0882681052
"Oxygen Therapies", ISBN 0962052701
"Hydrogen Peroxide--Medical Miracle", ISBN 1885236077
"The Natural Cure for Cancer--Germanium", ISBN 0533071410
"Killing Cancer", ISBN 0705000966
"Natural Cures 'They' Don't Want You to Know About", ISBN 0975599518

I know of people whose cancer has 'spontaneously remitted' (WENT AWAY for no known reason) AFTER they went on programs of herbs and nutrition to restart their immune systems.

You and your family must look out for yourselves to stand a chance of being healthy. This is not a joke, and I'm not selling anything--just trying to help.
I am using the things I learned in those books right now to fight off a second infestation of cancer. I've been at it for over a year now, and think I'm going to make it. Use what works for you, and pass on your success. Best of luck.

Answer 7

I feel for you sophie. My 17yr old daughter is also dying from cancer after trying to fight it for the second time. my son also had cancer a yeasr ago and i did when i was 31. So the only advice i can give you is let him shout, scream, cry, say nothing or babble on. Just be there for him and try to treat him normally. I wish you well take care. X jen

Answer 8

Sometimes the best words are those unspoken when you spend time together. Its awkward, I know, but don't feel like you have to dwell on the inevitable. Be there as much as you can and talk about the things you used to before his diagnosis. There are some really good books in your local Mardel or Lifeway bookstores that address this very well. Good luck and bless you for having the courage to be a friend and the awareness of its calling.

Answer 9

Don't be! He will need you as a friend just now perhaps more than he has ever done. So many people shy away from those who are dying, especially of cancer, and they are left alone in this time of great need. Partly it is embarrassment, partly it is fear, both of the disease they have, and because it reminds us of our own mortality.

Go see him, he is still the same person he was last year, last week or yesterday. He is not his disease.

Answer 10

My daughter died recently from breast cancer, so I know what you must be feeling, you just be there for him, treat him like you have always treated him. talk to him about normal things and just make every second of his life count for something. Keep your pity and sadness hiden, just show that you are his friend through thick and thin, the good and the bad times. If he needs you to talk at any time be there. Even make future plans even small ones gives hope and most of all make him laugh tell him jokes, funny videos anything to keep his spirits up.