what would you do if your 16 year old daughter told you she was pregnant. What is the best way she should tell you?
2007-03-05 04:04:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was 17 but I'll share my experience anyway in hopes that it will help. What the other people are saying is true. You just can't sugar coat it. You just have to grow a pair and tell him. I only had to tell my mom (my dad was in another country for 3 months on business) but in a way for me that was worse. My dad is the type of guy who grew up in a crappy situation...so his mindset is the "if it doesn't kill you...you're fine" type of thing. So I wasn't worried at all about his reaction, my mom on the other hand is a little nuts about "potential" and such. Which as a parent I can understand but she takes it a bit far sometimes. And contrary to was a previous answerer said...your parents don't have to raise your child. My situation was a bit unique because although I was 17 I was a senior in high school so I graduated before I gave birth. However, I went to school with many girls who were still in high school when they had their child. You just have to work extremely hard in school and get a job and work hard at that too. And cram as much time with your child into the hours you have. Getting help from your parents isn't the same as them raising your child. I'll never understand how parents can turn away their children over something so simple really. It makes me think that perhaps they never really understood what being a parent was to begin with. Being a teen mom changes you life. You won't be a kid anymore. But it's not the END of your life...it's the beginning of your life as a mom. ALL children are miracles...and should be treated as such.
2007-03-05 05:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband has repeatedly warned our 16 year old daughter that if she went and got herself pregnant, that he would not raise her child. We've been married for 15 years, and this is the one thing we disagree on the most. I do not believe in giving up on your children no matter what dumb stuff they do. They need our support, especially when they are 16 and make a mistake. I can't guess which type of father you have- supportive, or only supportive when you are doing the right thing, but I can tell you this: You are going to have to tell him. Think about the last time your Dad was angry with you for doing something that you should have known better than to do. Did he talk to you about natural consequences, and thoroughly explain all of the ramifications of your behavior? Or did he just send you to your room after telling you to call your mother and see if you could go live with her? You know your father better than anyone here. One thing that may help is to get a female adult friend to help you tell him. You also might want to be ready to discuss some options with him before you go into the conversation. If you can finish school, you should. You can take online high school courses and graduate even with a baby. Be ready to discuss adoption, abortion, keep the baby, ask a relative to keep the baby, who the father is, and how hard you will have to fight the father to make him take responsibility. You need to be willing to talk about all of this with your father. Don't expect him to be thrilled. He wanted more of a future for his daughter than diapers and welfare checks. Good luck!
2007-03-05 04:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that's extremely unlawful in such lots of procedures. the daddy feels like he's obsessive and slightly bit a stalker. in the experience that your pal isn't careful, she gets herself into lots of undertaking. If companionship is what she is finding for she gets from others her very own age. this occasion can get out of hand and the guy may be caught as appearing some factor statutory. Your pal desires to end what ever that's with this guy previously it gets any further out of hand. If it gets back to her mothers and dads, they could pursue it to the subsequent point & that's going to be a criminal action.
2016-12-18 15:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty im not a father but i am sure that is the way i would want to be told. You can't hide it forever. Good luck and god bless he will probably get angry because he is hurt and can't trust you but you have to understand his side of it. Hopefully everything will work out.
2007-03-05 04:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dad I'm pregnant. There is no way to sugar coat news like this.
2007-03-05 04:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by JS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have twins girls on the way and if they get pregnant at 16 and they come and tell me, i would rather them just be honest and say dad, i have been having sex and i know i am pregnant. then duct and run!!!
2007-03-05 04:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth my dad handled it better then my mom did. they are right there is no sugar coating something like this.
2007-03-05 04:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like this...
Dad.. I'm pregnant
Thud! (dad hits floor)
Dad i'm just kidding...Dad? Dad! Oh NO!
SO was I Haha funny girl!
2007-03-05 10:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u needs to smokes like HOLE entire KARTON of malboro!!!!!
2007-03-05 06:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋