Ive been dating the same guy since December...we are exclusive...I told him I didnt want to put any label on it and keep it cool...Ive started to have feelings...he moved in sort of by default bc he and his roomate didnt get along...ive said it is a bad idea all along...he is very sweet and caring and thoughtful...on the flipside, he is also very critical and last night he started talking about "feelings" i guess...he said that other girlfriends said that he is a coward and that he cant fall in love...i guess hes been hurt before...the other day, he said that he has never found anyone to settle down with...hes 34, im 25...should i run like hell?
2007-03-05 03:52:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, or anything like that, what you can do is tell him that since he cna't commit to being bf/gf, that you are going to see other people, and then bring a guy home with you one night. Make him jealous, and then see if he is wanting to commit.
2007-03-05 04:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need a new boyfriend, you mentioned that he was rude to other people. well hello! he's going to get that way with you. Sometimes during the honeymoon period of a fresh new romance, people will act nicer, and that is the best you can expect from them, during the courtship. Now he's getting used to you being there, and he will change. I could be wrong he could just of been having a real stressed out day. But still it doesn't give him the right to use you as a punching bag and displace his frustrations on you. If you are a sensitive person who needs someone that likes the snuggley phone calls, then you should find someone who needs it to. Again I might be wrong. Just know the warning signs are there and make the right decision. If it's happening more frequently, then you need to leave. Do not be in a relationship where you are being treated bad all the time. By making that decision and following through, you can feel really good about yourself and your life. Know that you can make the right choice, and will make the right choice puts you in a spot of control. It seems right now that you don't need any drama or bs. Also Volunteer if you need something to do during the day. You can ad it on your resume.
2016-03-16 04:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has feelings, and everyone can fall in love. Maybe the guy didn't find the right one in past girlfriends. So, they justify his NOT LOVING THEM by saying that he can't fall in love. Crazy! Why would you want to run? After all, the guy is opening up to you. Being critical is just something we all do on occasion. Just tell him that this is YOUR apartment, and until you are consider yourself a real couple, then you will have your place ,and yourself, looking as you want. You two should talk about what you expect in a relationship, and in simply sharing an apartment. Heck! Even relatives can't live together without some fighting on occasion. If you can't work out some sort of comfortable plan, then to get more serious would be foolish. But, as I said, I wouldn't run just yet. Ask him what the problem was with his former roommate. Maybe he is just hard to live with. Who knows? It is up to YOU to find out, and decide if he is a real keeper or not. Good luck!!!
2007-03-05 04:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youve laready made one mistake letting a guy you barley know move in your place which will put a strain on your new developing relashionship. He's 34 and still isnt established also rasies another flag. the third flag is that he told you he's never been able to commit and you must take what a guy tells you at face value for he's telling you that he has a hard time commiting and probably wont commit to you my advice is that sice the relashioship is so new give him some time but time out of your place he has got to get his own place give him no more than a month and give him six months totoal to see if he's ready to make the commitmnet to be a stady boyfriend and if not kick him to the curb
2007-03-05 03:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want out of the relationship. I'd stay stick with it and try to have some fun with him but keep your eyes open if you aren't happy... Maybe you'll be the one to change his mind just don't look to far into the future if he's not ready for the commitment cause you'll just end up split anyways
2007-03-05 04:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell before you get hurt. I think when your feelings start to grow for a person and they don't reciprocate, other dramas start to occur like jealousy. He is too old to still be a playboy. I must say, when you start to run they will find anyway to get you back. That can be hard because the things they do to get you back catches your attention and you forget about what's really going on. I say for you to be strong because it may not be easy to let go because of your feelings for him. Then again, if you think you have the stamina to stay around and wait for him to grow up, go for it but get the big picture before you waste your energy.
2007-03-05 04:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 34 and has never found anyone to settle down with sounds like he hasn't found anyone to put up with him. Everyone can fall in love he just doesn't want to put any effort into a relationship.
When your gut instinct tells you he shouldn't move in then quickly move him back out. The longer he stays the harder it is to get rid of him.
When you gut instinct tell you to run like hell, then run like hell.
2007-03-05 04:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a man's perspective though you won't like it...Men can't Commit tht so easily.In case of your so called Boyfriend....if he hs no history of a successful relation till the age of 34....there is some problem.I am not saying tht he is bad but he is one who is emotionally weak..in case u trust him one advice....Keep your expectations modest.
...who knows you are the one for him....but still its you who has to make a decision.
Good Luck
2007-03-05 04:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by fire_kops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't run...give him a chance . maybe he has been hurt before and is afraid to commit himself...Just let him tell you how he feels and work from there...He might be the one for you but that is for you to decide...I can only advise you...Good Luck
2007-03-05 03:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a decision and strengthen your resolve to stick to it. Why would you want to be with someone who hasnt given you an indication that he is enough of himself to be with you as part of a couple?? You deserve better, and , in time, that 10 yrs will create a gap that will make it more difficult to stay with him when you want to stay up all night and share a sunrise with him and he is too tired to do likewise. i am in a similar situation with a woman who is 9 yrs my senior but i love her and find other ways to cherish and honor her despite our differences
2007-03-05 04:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋