...and I have not slept together? We have been dating for almost three months and we see each other almost everyday. We both live with our parents (I am still in college and he had to sell his house~long story), but their were two weekends in a row where either my parents or his parents were out of town...and we didn't do anything. He hasn't even tried to get me into bed.
It's not that I want to rush into anything...but I was just wondering if it is normal for a guy to be willing to wait when he really cares about the person he is with.
By the way...we are both in our mid-twenties!
2007-03-05 03:44:32 · 18 answers · asked by southernbell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not a virgin...he used to be engaged!
2007-03-05 03:54:46 · update #1
there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. i think that he may want to make sure that you are absolutely comfortable with everything, or maybe he's not ready. i would enjoy the fact that he's being a gentleman about the whole sex thing. not many guys are like that. while you may not find it "normal" his behavior is ok. there could be several reasons....and one of the top ones being wanting to make sure that you are ok with everything. also, he could be shy, and it may take him a bit to get "ready". he's also probably thinking about how you will feel with all of it and maybe he doesn't want to rush either.
2007-03-05 03:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that he doesn't yet feel completely comfortable around you and so he wants to wait until he has that connection. You don't seem like you want to rush anything, you're just a female and us females are used to all guys being horn-dogs. So I completely understand why you're confused. It's not usual that a guy wants to wait. But maybe in this case, with him being in his mid-twenties, he actually has respect for women. Maybe he has already gone through his random sleeping with his girlfriends right off the bat phase and finds that it ruins things, so he wants to try something different with you. If you want to, make the move... that's not uncommon these days either!
2007-03-05 11:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly the dude cares a lot about you..maybe he doesnt know where you stand on the whole sex issue, he doesnt want to do something to ruin the relationship.
If it doesnt happen in the next month or so, Id defintely bring it up to him
I am graduating college in a couple months and I know every guy Ive ever dated weve slept together in the first month, if not the first week ( i know im terrible)
since hes not in college, he may not have been adjusted to that culture of sex to a lot of people being just that. he may have only been with 1 or 2 people and sees it as a huge deal
either way he respects you like CRAZY, thinks your a classy girl..hopefully he is down for it soon, if not bring it up, speak up and let him know your ready and want to share this intimate act with him..that may be the OK he needs
2007-03-05 11:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh that is very odd. Are you sure he isn't gay? Or perhaps he feels that he's respecting you by not pushing? Have you guys at least made out? Did he have to restrain himself and pull back so in order not to go all the way? that is odd for a guy in his twenties to not at least try. And I know what you mean, it's nice not to have to fight him off, but you want to feel that he desires you too. Keep us posted as to what happens...
2007-03-05 11:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its sweet that your both waiting, its best not to rush in to anything
maybe hes a virgin?
its nice to see people taking the nice and slow way into a relationship unlike some kids under 15 doing it all the time and getting pregnant
good luck hope it all works out
2007-03-05 11:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he probably respects you. Would you want a guy that expects you to put out? Some guys do do that, if they truly do care for the person. It'll happen when it happens. Maybe he's not ready for it right now, just wait to see what happens.
2007-03-05 11:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds kinda wierd to me but i think u should ask him. when me and my boyfriend started going out he woulnt try anything other than a kiss and when those got to hot he would cut it. after a week i asked why he hadnt tried and he said he wanted to respect me and he thought i was the kinda girl that took things slow. i loved his answer and a week after we had sex for the 1st time. and it was wonderful we still together and i dont regret asking him. so my best advice is to just ask him. tell him that ur curious about why he hasnt tried to be with u sexually. i mean after 3 months wow. maybe he is just trying to be respectful of u. dont be afraid just ask him. good luck !!!
2007-03-05 11:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong waitng for the right time. beside, if you are not in your mid-twenties, do you want a guy to move in or go at you on the first date? No right? so just give some time
2007-03-05 11:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, thats not really that weird I mean maybe he's waiting for you to make the first move. He's Probably not sure if you are ready or not. Or maybe he's one of those religious people.
2007-03-05 11:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mid-20s, 3 months: it's not unheard of, but definitely not the most common.
But don't worry about common. do what's best for you. If you're comfortable not sleeping together, then there's no problem.
2007-03-05 11:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋