He broke up with his ex 4 years agp, they talk on msn rarely and text eachother happy xmas, happy birthday you. Im cool with that, I think its nice they can still be nice to eachother, but why he called her that night, i really dont know. I guess he just wanted to catch up and thats ok with me, it was more his reaction that got me angry.
I know to be careful around ex's lol ive been hurt before, but trust is trust, he knows what will happen if he betrays me.
should I call him? or should i wait for him to mkae the first move? im despreate for answers lol
2007-03-05 03:42:06 · 7 answers · asked by moomoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait wait wait wait wait, seriously the way you react now determines what happens in the rest of your relationship.
If you call him straight away his going to expect you to cave every time!!!!
Look i know right now your panicking, thinking you may have blown it and you don't want to lose him but you don't want him to have no respect for you either just breath and wait if he contacts you it will show his worth it and his really into you.
2007-03-05 03:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to why he's responding in such a hostile manner. If he was really worried about hurting you with this 'relationship', he'd be much more careful with how he treats you. Sounds to me like he still has feelings for this girl, honestly. People react the way he did when they want to deflect their own guilt onto someone else. It makes sense, when you think about it. If he still likes this girl, he's feeling angry that he has to defend his feelings. Sounds to me like they never should have broken up. I'm sure this isn't the answer you wanted to hear, but I truly think I'm right about this one. I think you should consider moving on. Relationships are enough work w/o having this kind of baggage to deal with. No one should react that strongly when HE'S the one who's calling his ex...unless he still has feelings for her and feels guilty about it, yet angry for having to justify his feelings. Urgh. Walk away.
2007-03-05 11:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by scouseryank33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say from the sounds of it that he was the one who was having problems with wanting to call his ex. He got awfully defensive, didn't he, jumping to conclusions about what you were thinking, then trying to brush it off by paying attention to something else? Especially since you say they hardly talk to each other. I don't know why he would react that way, though.
If anything, I think you need to call him and say, "Are you feeling better? Are you ready to be reasonable? Are you feeling better now and less likely to call me a psycho over absolutely nothing?"
Good luck!
2007-03-05 11:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not like it and I would tell him he should stop it, and I was not comfortable with this. I had a girl-friend who just called me and her lawyer boy-friend, just gave his ex a dozen roses. He told my friend that he felt sorry for her and so that's why he did it. She called me and said what do you think- I said girl you are in trouble, cause this guy is cheating on you, just found -he is and he has asked this other girl to marry him,. What a Crock?? Don't you think?some are dogs. You have to watchem!!
2007-03-05 11:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moo Moo, Don't be a Fool Fool.
Learn when a relationship is over and go on with your life. Maybe you are trying too hard to make it work? There will be lots of guys in your life, why waste time on this one?
2007-03-05 11:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by H.C.Will 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. You need to know whats going on. Just call him! is it worth your relationship to stay silent? Have a nice long talk about how you feel and let him explain.
2007-03-05 11:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Hippiebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to weigh your options, it seems as though he is still in love with this woman. Please talk to him and really see whats up i think you should move on really. You mean to tell me year you will have to put up with this. Every Holiday? What is going on, HE is not content with you?
2007-03-05 11:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋