I would like to write a letter of my concerns for my son, who lives in san francisco ca to the gover-nor?

Question

my son is very ill, he has been moving from place to place, he is a very good boy, but just like alot of other kids they get mixed up with the wrong people, he is gay and he also has hiv, he has been trying to get on socisl security for over a year, but with no results, the social security office told him, that he cannot get help from them unless he has full blown aids, I try as much as I can to help him with his financial needs, but I too am strapped for money. What I don't understand is why social security won't help him, why wait until he gets full blown aids, My son has been through so much, as a boy he was raped by my brothers friend, who was married with children of his own, and now he is back in circulation getting help from our government. I know that I am not the only parent that fills this way. I have lost my brother, my two nephews, and it is not a pretty picture to watch someone you love just fade away as if they have nothing to give to the world, my son has given alot back

My son was on the meds for HIV patients, but the meds made him very ill, Yes I have asked my son to come home so I can help him, but he has been in sf for over 15 years, and there are some programs that help him with food, and medical traetment, which is ward 86, at general hospital, A couple of weeks ago my son blacked out and was laying in the gutter with his face scraped from whatever happened to him, and he wasn't found til the next day that means he layed there all night before someone found him and then called an ambulance, his was taken to sf general hospital, where he was diagnosed with phnomoena, his truck was stolen he had no idea what had happened to him. When I was finally called I was so shocked to see what he had to go through. I cannot believe that our police dept. whould let this go as another homeless person, my son was attacked by someone, that also took his vehicle and left him for dead. My son believes in god, and so do I, but sometimes it is hard .

Answer 1

I am sorry this happened to your son, you must be heartbroken seeing him suffer?

I don't know that the Governor will help him but there are attorneys that would be willing to help out on a case against social security pro bono if there is cause?

If the rules of SS state that the condition has to be full blown in order to receive compensation then that is the rule... In the meanwhile I'm sure that San Franscico especially must have Public health assistance and advocacy's that assist people living with HIV to lead easier, healthier lives?

Good luck to you! I will keep you and your son in my prayers...

Answer 2

Oy.......

I understand what you're saying, but the catch here is that there is no shortage of people trying to claim Social Security, and everyone feels that their claims are legitimate.

I would imagine a main reason he doesn't qualify while it's just HIV, not AIDS, is that with HIV, he can still work and live life relatively normally. I understand there are medical circumstances, but theoretically, he should be well enough to earn a living. Once he progresses from HIV to AIDS, his ability to work drops dramatically.

Encourage your son to live as full a life as he can, considering what he's going through. Help him to find work in a relatively low-stress atmosphere, with an understanding employer. I've worked with a man who had HIV before. Those of us in the office knew it, but we didn't talk about it, and he did his work quietly and effectively, and was capable of working a regular 40-hour-week for several years before things really got bad for him.

I'm sorry, I know this doesn't help you much, and I would encourage you to write a letter to the governor, but just know that your letter could get lost in the thousands of letters he gets. Be persistant.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I truly feel for you and your son. It is terrible that once you are sick no one can help you unless you are on your way out. You would think that they would want to help and possibly save those that are here struggling. There is nothing like the care of a mother, do your best to convince him to come home. Let him know that money is tight and it would help a lot if he were home instead of trying to care of his living expense else where. In time things will look up and I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

I know a military veteren that contracted HIV when his drug-using brother poked him with a needle...he can't get Social Security either.

You could try to appeal. In the mean time, have your son come home.

Answer 5

I think that you are a wonderful parent.you should ask your son if he is willing to come home even if it is only for a while.This situation is so sad and I think he should be with the people who love him.I hope your son gets the help he needs.Please keep being the grate mother that you are.I wish the best to the both of you.