my son is a year old and he hates people.?

Question

he cries whenever someone try to play with him. how can i get him use to his family

Answer 1

it's not that he hates them, he's just scared of the unknown, and it's completely normal. I have boy/girl twins that are 20 months old. My little boy is as social as they come, but my daughter doesn't even like people to LOOK at her, if she doesn't know them. Playing with her is completely out of the question for her.

I suggest having them visit more often, and be prepared to stay awhile. If you push or rush him into playing with someone he's only going to resent them more. He needs time to warm up to them. If they stay and play, and he's allowed to play at his own leisure, he'll get used to them. Limiting the time in between visits ensures that he'll remember them when they come over.

Be patient, and be thankful. Think of it like this: at least you won't have to remind him constantly, not to talk to strangers!

Answer 2

LOL I'm sorry, I know that's not supposed to be funny........

At that age, there's not a whole lot you can do, except to just ease him into it. Don't try to make him talk to others, or touch others, or sit in someone's lap, etc. I can't tell if you mean he's shy or he just really hates other people, but I would lean more towards the shy thing.

My nephew had a general dislike of others, and people who tried to force themselves on him are people he doesn't like to this day. Those of us who didn't demand "sugars" (I live in the south, and this is a really annoying term for "hug and kiss") get along well with him now. While my grandmother (his great-grandmother) tries to get a kiss from him everytime she sees him, and he can't stand her, I hold my hand out and he gives me five. Works for us.

When you're in a group or around other people, let him sit in your lap, but you look like you're really enjoying interacting with the other person. Try to draw him into the conversation in a non-physical way (don't ask him to make physical contact, but "can you show Aunt Gert how old you are?" could work....... eventually).

The thing is, not everyone is all that affectionate, and that isn't something that a person can be forced into. What you have to teach him is not that he needs to act like **insert the name of another child you know**, he just needs to function okay in a world where he's going to run into other people.

If he seems incapable of interacting with others, or if it REALLY bothers him, mention it to his pediatrician. While it's rare, a total lack of affection in a small child can be a warning sign for autism.

Answer 3

My daughter did that and it just took her time especially since I breastfed her for over a year. Keep bringing them around your son and try to let them play with him while on your lap. My daughter would scream anytime someone came near now a year later she wants to be the center of attention at all times.

Answer 4

Its a normal reaction. He's realized that those who take care of him are safe, and that other's are strangers to him and may NOT be safe. Its a human instinct, and he will eventually grow out of it.

The best bet is to take him around the family more often, but inform the family to let HIM approach them because he's "at that age".

Answer 5

This is perfectly normal. Every kid goes through it. Not to worry he will grow out of it soon.