it started at dinner the evening before last night. my bf told me he called his ex girlfriend and asked if this was ok. i replied 'yes' and was a little quiet because i was thinking about it afterwards. Then I started to think that maybe it was a good thing, theres nothing wrong with calling an ex and being friends. I told him this was how i felt and we hugged... HOWEVER
last night i went over to his and he called me a psycho for reacting the way i did the night before when he told me. (I was only a little quiet while i was thinking about how i felt about it) anyway he referred to me as psycho about 3 times, while i was trying to explain i was fine with him calling the ex he said 'do u mind im trying to watch this...' it was a video sequence in final fantasy a ******* computer game! his whole attitude threw me off. clearly he didnt care what i had to say he just labelled me as this psycho...so i suggested that we take a break and then i left and drove home.
was this wrong of me?
2007-03-05 03:28:13 · 19 answers · asked by moomoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was his total lack of respect for me that made me want a break...his priority druing the fight was his playstation how can i be with a guy who thinks im a psycho when im clearly not?
mayeb uv read through this and you agree with him? maybe I did react badly? i just need another individuals perspective
2007-03-05 03:29:15 · update #1
..PS who should apologise first?? I feel the need to but im not sure why.... I just dont like to argue! :P
2007-03-05 03:35:55 · update #2
I think you are totally correct, on both situations!! It should be fine for him to call his ex if they are still friends (you cannot, after all, pick his friends for him), and as for the next "event"-the guy was being a moron! He had no reason to call you anything, never mind a psycho! I think that he probably had hurt feelings because you actually agreed he could still be friends with his ex (Stupid, I know, but it is a guy thing{oh, and for the record I am a male}) So he was watching some video about his game, the thing will be there again later-listen to what your GF is saying stupid!! I think you should take more than just a break-I think you should forget about him and move on! Obviously his game is higher on his priority list than you are (at least when it is convenient for him it is) and that is just not right! Move on and be happy with the next man you are with (he probably wont be like the one you are seeing right now!)
2007-03-05 03:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be way careful with the exes and friends thing, keep him close when he's around his ex.
he's playing defensive.. maybe he has something to hide?
And with the video games, tell him to quit playing for a minute, or that you will not discuss anything until he walks away from the game and you have his full attention. I had a relationship based around a video game, and the communication between us was terrible, just because we always had our noses planted in front of a computer screen.
There's nothing wrong with suggesting a break from each other, and it lets him know that you are really upset about how things panned out. Hopefully then he'd be willing to work with you to patch things up and make things better between you two.
I hope this helps you, good luck.
2007-03-05 03:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chibi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by no means were you wronge in what you said..granted you said it was ok tell you thought about it..which i think if i was in your situation.. i would of handled it the same way..question is..was it ok??..is the relationship completely over with with the ex?.. never the less after you thought about if it was ok or not he should of respected in what you felt.. calling you a psycho really isnt going to make the situation any better..from experience two people need to talk these situations out and understand how each other feels.. if this does not happen. things--situation will have a tendency to get worse threw time....
2007-03-05 03:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by honeymic2004000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was not wrong of you at all. I think you handled it well actually, since you didn't resort to yelling and screaming and insulting him. honestly if the guy still wants to call his ex and he pays more attention to his videogames than you and on top of that insults you, he doesn't seem like a very good catch in the first place. You do not need to apologize. You did nothing wrong. It is him whois being a jerk about it.
2007-03-05 03:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by shyangel40_devlish60 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly don't think there was anything wrong with your reaction. However, Did he say why he called his ex? It almost sounds to me that the subject was brought up in order for him to make you jealous.The fact that he mentioned and then he over- reacted to your response as well as he didn't want to talk with you about it tends to make me think that he is now looking for a reason to end your relationship. I am thinking that he is still acting like a child and I have my doubts as to whether this relationship will amount to anything. On top of that, he seems to be controlling.
2007-03-05 03:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did he need to call his ex out of no where..i dont know what kind of level him and the ex are on or why he'd be calling. Ex's usally arent talk on the phone friends unless its extremely important. If hes more intrested in the video game then you, I wouldnt care if he called you psycho or not..take a hint honey..he may just not be that into you...specially if hes talking to ex
2007-03-05 03:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's very inmature!!! Are you sure you want to be with him?? I would rather be alone, then with someone that is playing head games with me, You deserve much better then this. Find someone else that can give you a much better life. I just hate it when people men and women twist and turn things around, it's more like a controlling kind of relationship, DO NOT-DO NOT stay with a person that beats you down!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 03:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a psycho for feeling the way you do, if guys ask a question like that, just tell them how you feel right away, it would have probally saved all this heartache your having. The way he was treating you afterwords is wrong though, maybe you dont need a guy like this!
2007-03-05 03:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit immature for you. I would start putting some distance between you two, you know, concentrate on your self and see if he comes around. If he doesn't, I'd be keeping my options open, if you know what I mean.
p.s. don't wait for an apology from him; it may never come. Just move on with the relationship and keep this incident in the back of mind for future reference.
2007-03-05 03:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this raises alarms now
he s pickin a fight and over reacting over nothing
now he s trying to find an excuse to push u away for a bit and hang out with an x
hmm sit down and talk to her
if he doesnt then u need to reevaluate ur situation
2007-03-05 03:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋