So lately I've been REALLy 'in the mood'. But when my boyfriend and i get down and dirty, i kinda of get bored. He's really shy and not very spotanious so he refuses to experiment outside of the bedroom. Whereas I get off just being out in public or even trying some where new. Whats a good way to bring it up in convo that our sex life is anything but hot to me? How do i release the freak in my shy guy?
PLEASE HELP :(
2007-03-05 03:24:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont really want to say this..but some people just don't have the freak in them...
Talk to him about it, I was in love with my ex but the sex was terrible..I bought some toys for him to use on me and it spiced things up..
be like so and so is having a sex toy party and she wants me to go...see what his reaction is...if its something like eww thats so trashy...ok find yourself a new boyfriend..or just attack him one time, take control and see how it works out
2007-03-05 03:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just start small and move up. Get him in the mood.
Maybe watch some dirty movies with him, maybe he'll get some ideas. Maybe have sex on like the couch or a lazy boy or something. Maybe next time get some toys for him, just convince him to try them out, guys are easy.
2007-03-05 11:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shelby Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys don't like public sex - I know I don't!! It's hard to get a hardon when you have an audience. Also, girls are more likely to get off on the whole exhibitionist thing, since a lot of women like it when men (and other women) look at their bare bodies. A lot of men are shy about being naked in public.
You might have to compromise - have hot wild raw hard core sex, but only in the privacy of your bedroom!
2007-03-05 11:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might not be a freak in there. It sounds like you guys are on two different levels and you'd better work that out before moving it to the next level.
I'm a freak in private but have no interest in exhibitionism. Maybe he's just not right for you.
2007-03-05 11:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The back seat of the car has worked for me in the past. If you drive maybe you should pick him up one night. Have a couple of brewskis handy if need be. Wear a long coat with only panties and pumps on. A little sexy music and on a private make out spot and something should happen, right? Works for me! (I guess I'm just old school)
2007-03-05 11:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sex book, or a sex toy and take it in the bedroom. Open him up to new ideas slowly.
You can try getting him into the bathroom and the shower. If you/him have the whole place to yourself with NO interruptions you could try enticing him out into another area.
Also, if you plan on having sex or doing sexual things with him, you should be confident talking to him about your feelings so just tell him what you want, if he cares about you he'll try it.
2007-03-05 11:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Answers4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him someplace you think is hot to have sex, and just start doing it. once you get him hard and going he won't be able to stop even if he wants to. bj in the movie theator is a great starter for shy guys because it requires little of them and it is really difficult to say no to. or just wait until you know he's almost home, put a porn on in the living room and masterbate to it on the couch, if he walks in and sees you like that chances are he won't be able to control himself, the living room aint a big improvment but it is outside of the bedroom, it may take baby steps but slowly ween him off his inhibitions and soon you may be screwing in the streets, and if he won't do the freaky stuff you want, i will hehehehe.
2007-03-05 11:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try bringing it up while you are having sex, like what are your fantasies stuff like that I know it's sounds strange but try it, it helped me! Or play around telling him that you are in control and he has to do what you say, and if cooperates that you will "give him something nice" Or spontaneously try to get him in the mood when you are in public!
2007-03-05 11:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by skeeter_822000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if he's not a freak, you can't make him be freaky. If this is the case with your guy, it may even cause him to be a little uncomfortable trying to be freaky. If it truly affects your sex life, may have to search for a new partner. Good luck, you big ol' freak :)
2007-03-05 11:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by blamb! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy like that, and every attempt I made to get him out of the bedroom just worked to turn him off completely. He was just really inhibited and I never could get him out of his sex=bedroom+lightsoff mentality. We're not together any more.
Booze might help him though. :D
2007-03-05 11:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋