I have a really big prob. I am a Catholic and he isn't? Can anyone help us decide where to get married thanks!

Answer 1

Do you both practice your chosen religions? If so then I would say choose a neutral place like an outdoor setting. But if only one of you practices your religion, go with the one that you practice or if you attend one chrch regularly together use that church.
I am not Cathloic but my husband is, we practice my religion, so thats where we were married. My sister married a Catholic man and converted for him since she didnt practice her religion any longer. Unless you both practice different religions, it shouldnt be a big problem.

Answer 2

Oops, I thought you said he was catholic and you weren't - ignore my response. (Though it still applies for people marrying into catholicism)

I guess it depends. Is he a full blown catholic, or an elapsed catholic.

Elapsed catholics are the ones that only go on easter and christmas (they might go during the year, but aren't all 'gung ho' about their catholicism.

Then there are the ones who have bought the whole catholic dogma thing hook line and sinker. They literally pray to different saints when faced with decisions or problems, think that the church holds some kind of power of their eternal soul, and would fall on their knees and kiss the popes ring if they were put in his presence. (No offense to catholics, but your church is pretty darn weird).

If he falls into the former - you could probably get away with using whatever church you go to, or decide on a neutral one (just pick the prettiest one you can reasonably afford). If he's a die-hard catholic though (in which case you probably would have already had some issues with him) then you should probably give up now. They make you jump through so many hoops to 'become catholic' before they will deem to marry you, that you might as well try to become a shaolin monk.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You can still get married in the Church, if it's that important to you. My sister-in-law's husband isn't Catholic, but they still got married in her home parish. I think the only catch is that the non-Catholic spouse must still go through the pre-Cana counseling, and he/she must agree to raise the children Catholic. As for the Mass during the ceremony, only the Catholic spouse and his/her family receive communion. It was actually much easier than they thought it would be, and the bride was happy to still be married in the Church (her husband is not really religious). Check out your options with your priest, if you want to be married in the Church.

Otherwise, you can consider a beautiful hotel as your location. Many hotels host the wedding itself and the reception, and any out-of-town guests will appreciate having everything in one place. You can also sometimes get a better price for everything. You can also consider something different, like a community garden or some other outdoor venue if the weather will be nice. You still have lots of options for this, all it takes is a little research to figure out what you like. Good luck!

Answer 4

Does your husband-to-be practice his religion or is his family very into it?

Do you practice Catholicism or were you "raised" Catholic?

My husband is Catholic...I am Lutheran. We got married in my church and my mother-in-law BEGGED me to have a priest bless the wedding. I didn't because I was 25 and figured if he wanted a priest there he would call and arrange it.

Now we have children.

And from moving for business here and there over the years we have been to many churches. I don't really care where we go...God is God to me.

His family is VERY Catholic (nuns and brothers etc) and is very supportive of each other religiously....so we looked into having our child baptized Catholic and I made a committment to the church to raise my son Catholic. They told me my religion was not an issue, I did NOT need to convert.

The day after he was baptized we got a letter in the mail saying that our marriage was not recognized. Our son was illigitimate (sp) and that my husband..alter boy and all that he was for 30 years...was NOT welcome to recieve the Sacraments.

Moral of the Story...once a Catholic..always a Catholic. Get married in the Catholic church since you are the bride with the more...um...er...dominant church. Unless he is Morman, Jewish or Jehovah's Witness (in which case how did you end up together anyway) then his church probably won't care.

If he is an active participant in his own church..and you are not..then get married there..but HAVE THE PRIEST BLESS THE MARRIAGE!!!!!

it just saves a lot of trouble down the road...baptisms, funerals, Christmas, Easter, in-laws..e.tc.

Answer 5

If you're a Catholic I highly advise getting married in the church. It's a sacrament. I got married by a judge and I haven't been able to take communion for 7 years. I am now going through the process of getting married in the church (even though technically my husband and I are already married to each other) and I really wish I had done it this way to begin with. My husband is not catholic but we can still get married. We had to request permission for a mixed marriage. It really feels good to be doing it this way.

Answer 6

Is it important to you for the Catholic church to bless and sanction your marriage? If it is then you must marry within the church. You still have several options and there really aren't many hoops to jump through. You'll have pre-cana classes, which can be done in one weekend. You have to do these even if you are both Catholic and I would highly recommend them anyway. They aren't really religious. They are a bunch of talking points to get you and your fiance talking about the major issues that come up in a marriage like money and how to deal with children. You have to promise to raise your children Catholic. That is it. At the ceremony you don't have to have a communion if you feel it would be an issue. My family is Protestant and therefore believe that anyone who has been baptised can receive communion. We were afraid that might be an issue so we skipped the communion. It is perfectly acceptable to the Church for you to do so. All these people who claim it is difficult to get married in the church either have no experience or got married many, many years ago. The American Catholic church has been greatly reformed and they really are not very demanding in their requirements. The non-Catholic does NOT have to convert. They simply need to participate in the couples class with you. If you want the Catholic church to bless your union you will have to meet the counseling requirements even if you decide to marry in his church. It really depends on how you feel about your faith. If marrying in the Church is important to you, then I don't see the problem. Contact your priest and sign up for class.

Answer 7

Your fiance does not to be confirmed to get married in the Catholic church so whoever said that is wrong. My fiance isn't even baptized and we are getting married in a Catholic church. You should ask him if he is interested in being catholic though because it would be great to have that common ground if you ever have kids and want to raise them with religion. Most churches have a program where you start in the fall and go to classes 1 day a month and right before easter you receive you baptism, first communion, and confirmation all on the same day. If he is not interested in this, there is still no reason why you wouldn't be able to get married in a catholic church

Answer 8

Pastor Billy says: see a Catholic priest, you must be married as a Catholic in the Catholic faith for it to be a valid marriage in the eyes of the Church. Your partner will not have to convert but you have to promise to raise any children Catholic. It is important you get these things sorted before marriage.

Answer 9

It all depends on whether you want to remain a faithful Catholic after you get married. If you do, you must get married in a Catholic Church by a priest or have the permission of the bishop to get married by someone other than a priest.

Answer 10

This is simple, dont get married at either your church, or his, but being that you both do have something in common, the Catholic religion, is also Christianity, get you guys a Christian preacher, to marry you, but do it, at some sort of "Hall" instead of a church.. That way, it will still be "Ordained" by a preacher, just not in either of your's churches, is all.. Good Luck, to you, two!!! And congratulation's ahead of time, here, for the both of you!!! Smile!!!