He always flirted with me when i was in my last relationship, but when i broke off the relationship, he didnt pursue me anymore.
Now that I'm in a new relationship, he's back to flirting with me constantly. Whats going on?
2007-03-05 03:14:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heres a example of whats going on...
I dont want the toy on the floor.
someone starts playing with the toy.
I now want the toy.
when i get the toy, i no longer want it.
2007-03-05 03:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, it would be because I saw you as a good friend. I flirt when you're not available because its safe to assume that you won't fall for me when you like someone else. I don't flirt when you're available because I realize it could change the relationship and I don't want that to happen.
Flirting for many people is just playing and having fun. Its not to create a big mystery romance like it does for other people.
It also could just be a coincidence that he didn't like you when you were available, in which case he can't make up his mind (kinda like the average girl).
It never hurts to just talk frankly with him. Use tact and emphathy, but better communication is always the best way to go. Just tell him what you've observed and how you interpret it. Then he can help correct your logic, but he might not be ready for the frank conversation so you'll have to watch for other clues to tell whether he's telling the truth.
2007-03-05 11:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that the only time you are interesting to him is when you are unavailable. He may feel uncomfortable viewing you as girlfriend material when you are uninvolved because at those times you are his friend, and he doesn't feel right hitting on you. What if you reject him?
But when you are involved, then flirting with you doesn't carry a risk. When you are involved may also be the only time he can reveal his true feelings for you...feelings that have moved past friendship into something much more.
This, however, is just one point of view.
He may have other reasons. If he is really your friend you should be able to talk to him. Tell him about your concerns. Ask him what you asked here. If he has been honest in the past, expect him to be honest with you now.
God bless you, and
Hope this helps.
2007-03-05 12:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just an ego thing. He wants to know he is more attractive than other guys, enough to win your attention. When you're single, there is no competition, nothing to prove his worth so he stops flirting.
2007-03-05 11:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not good for you. Ignore him and move on. His attention is destructive for you. He is giving you "value" only when another is giving you attention. He covets your relationship only when he feels that relationship is valuable as others believe it is. He is not good for you.
2007-03-05 11:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not confident.enough. He only feels he can engage with you when you are with someone else so that he does'nt have to show his true self. trust me on this one.
2007-03-05 11:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by whatsreallygood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he likes you but he only probly likes you when theres temptation knowing he cant have you thats usally how guys aresometimes more when uv known them for awhile
2007-03-05 11:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by twistedlove10204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously don't know what's going on he wants you because your with someone else he's jealous, take this from a guys opinion, i'm telling you the truth
2007-03-05 11:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Seth R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He really wants the attention.... tell him to get his OWN boyfriend!
2007-03-05 11:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to get the other guy going
2007-03-05 11:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋