I've had a hysterectomy but want one more...He wants nothing to do with adoption, says he's done with having kids! what can I do?
2007-03-05 03:14:24 · 12 answers · asked by east2west92 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well if you as a mom wouldn't mind using someone else's donated eggs, you can look for a surrogate mother. Someone who can carry the baby for you. THey can artificially inseminate her or use a donor egg along with your husbands sperm. It's funny how i came across this question today i was wanting to become a surragte mother after the birth of this child of ours. I am not looking to have any more children of my own so i thought it would be nice to have them for those who can't.
2007-03-05 03:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your husband is done having kids, and it sounds like with your hysterectomy that you are too. If adoption isn't an option, maybe you'll just have to accept that there won't be any other kids in your life until the grandkids come along. If you want to be around babies or young kids, you could always find someplace to volunteer or babysit for other people.
2007-03-05 11:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is plenty, He is at the place in his life, where he is feeling older. Likes having a little more freedon, with the kids getting older and less needy. Why not take the money you would use for the money you would be spending on having another baby and save it, in an account that pays good interest.
Save that money for when you have your grandchildren. If the kids all have 5 kids thats 25 grand children, you will need the money for christmas's and birthdays.
2007-03-05 11:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to force more kids on your husband, but if you really love having kids in your life maybe you can find work at a day care, or volunteer at a children's hospital. You can still make a difference in the lives of children, and this way you don't need to take them home so I'm sure your husband will be cool with it.
2007-03-05 11:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he say he was done having 'ahem'
most babies are not planned... just say OOOOPS, he will love that baby when it gets here
2007-03-05 12:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think 5 is a great number. I agree with the other answer, maybe you should consider being a foster parent? How about a dog? A hobby? I think I have to agree with your hubby, 5 is enough.
2007-03-05 11:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sassafrass AKA: SASSY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 kids may be enough. I think all of us women go through baby fever. I would talk to him and maybe find out why he doesn't want just one more and see what he tells you. Also tell him how you feel and maybe he will compromise.
2007-03-05 11:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his wishes. I think 5 kids is enough, but I guess I not the one to decide that. I am not sure that there is much that you can do unfortunately, if he is dead set against having more than you have to accept it.
2007-03-05 11:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it would be better for you to respect his wishes on this issue. unless both of you are on board this will never work out. try to figrue out why he is so against it. remind him that it would take years for you to adopt a child. maybe you could be meet in the middle and start with fostering children. good luck and congrats.
2007-03-05 11:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about being a foster parent instead? If he is not for that, throw yourself into your kids lives instead and make yourself happy. 5 kids is a lot of happiness!
2007-03-05 11:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋