ok so last night me and my boyfriend had this big fight. it didnt go over well at all. well today things seem a little better. we stayed up til 4am texting when he had to get up at 6am.lol. but that doesnt matter. so things arent going so great cuz he doesnt seem to have time for me. yeah i know he had all these priorities before i came into his life and i respect that big time. he works 5 days a week...goes to college 2 days and then is in two bands the other nights of the week. its really draining on me since i never get to spend alone time with him. the only really time i get to see him is when we pass eachother at school and it breaks my heart!! he says he loves me and all and i believe him, but he just doesnt have time. we talk everyday and hes still just as sweet as ever! but he says that things will get better in a couple weeks...i believe him. how should i continue to deal with it? were even talking about getting married.haha. help anyone?? thanks and greatly apperciated
2007-03-05 03:12:50 · 8 answers · asked by margrl1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should start getting busy yourself. see if he works around your schedule. if he really loves you, he will make time for you.
if you really like the guy, wait it out a bit. tell him how you feel (sounds like you have, but make sure that he knows the situation is draining the relationship)
If you were staying up until 4am texting, how come you weren't over at his place?
2007-03-05 03:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationship questions are really hard to answer, as it is between the two of you. From an outsider perspective, it looks like he does care very much for you. He talks everyday to you plus he's still as sweet as before!
Moreover, you went into this relationship with your eyes wide open. When you went out with him, you knew that he already has many other priorities. It is his prerogative whether he wants to delegate his time.
Another thing you need to know is whether you can live with this. It appears that he says things will get better, so just give him a chance, let things ride out and see what happens. After all, you do have your own life and priorities, and it does take a lot of cooperation to work things out with another person in your life!
Talking about marriage shows that he is serious about you to a certain degree as well.
Keep up the good work in the mutual respect arena. Communication, trust and respect are vital for a healthy loving relationship. All the best!
2007-03-05 11:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by 333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all these things that you are worrying about will make him better. So I think you should try to wait it out, or find some way to spend time with him if just a little a week it might be better then anything. and when the job or school lets up a little then you can spend more time together and only get married when you are happy with the situation don't get married if you or him is in school wait you have plenty of time.
2007-03-05 11:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what i can tell you is just to keep thinking about the positive "in this heart breaking situation" cause he says that it will get better, and you believe him right? All you have to do is just believe in him and your love for him. So just be brave, it will get better!! GOOD LUCK
2007-03-05 11:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by babz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and try and sort things out he sounds nice so if i was you id stick wiv him and if things dont get better then leave him be for a bit( but im sure things will get better ) i wouldn't get goin about getting married though coz you might realise that hes not the one for you and youve just gone and wasted your money on a wedding!!!
2007-03-05 11:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by 2 good 4 you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unresolved fights will make layers on both your love and his if are not discussed and cleared early on. I think you should go and talk to him about what happened between you two and make sure it's all clear between the two of you. tell him what you want in your relationship and asks him what he wants. be honest to him and make sure he knows that you are doing it for the best for you two so that both of you can be on the same page.
2007-03-05 11:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Living Fantasy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.......now u really like him a lot but life is not about making compromises..........nyways u r da best judge ,if u get what u want from this relationship then go ahead.
2007-03-05 11:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by serena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adjust with him
2007-03-05 11:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋