Im almost 20 years old, I am pregnant with my 2nd baby, the only thing is The father of the baby im carrying is denying the baby ( Only after me and him broke up ) We were engaged last year and were suppose to have been in love, He was so happy when he found out me and him were having a baby together but after I left him and broke off our engagement because he was abusive to me and always made me feel like I was the one who should feel lucky that he was with me because no one would ever love me like he did ( even with all the abusive things he did ) . So now him and his family calls me a whore and doesn't claim that the baby im carrying is my ex fiances and im 38 weeks, I make no contact at all with him or his family, However the twist is, After me and him broke up , 2 months later I started dating someone else and he is really supportive with me through all this, and he loves my 2 year old daughter alot, so thats one of the reasons I think my ex fiance is denying our baby...help!
2007-03-05 03:07:36 · 7 answers · asked by mom4ever 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Maybe you just need to let him go. Don't put his name on the Birth Certificate (or the new guy for that matter). Don't sue him for child support or anything. He is abusive and doesn't need to be around you or the baby.
Good Luck & Congrats on the new Baby!
2007-03-05 03:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok here's my two cents. If you have proof enough of the abuse to keep him from getting any type of custodial arrangement then go ahead and get the child support and say he's the father. It's harder to get it done if you wait and then claim he's the father. Granted that right now your children have a seemingly wonderful male figure in their lives that might not always be so and there could come a day when you need him to be a man and contribute to the care of his child. If there's not proof enough to keep him away from your children...then I might not risk it. If there's any chance that he would hurt them and that he would also get full/part custody then I'd just leave him the hell alone. You can find more money if you have to...but you can't fix the type of emotional and physical wounds abuse leaves. I'm sorry that things are crummy for you right now and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-05 05:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're better off without him. Depending on how abusive he was, persuing child support from him for a baby he doesn't want may result in a very dangerous situation for you and the baby.
You may just open a can of worms by trying to force his hand. If he or his family decide at a later date that they want to see the baby, then cross that bridge when you come to it.
Move on with your life with the new guy...chances are, you'll be much better happier and have a better life.
2007-03-05 05:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too bad for him denying the baby...it will make it a lot easier for you if this other man wants to adopt your children...or you can have a dna test done when the baby is born if you want to get support payments from him...but keep in mind just to be an a s s he may go for custody...sounds like you are better off on your own thatn in an abusive relationship or letting your unborn baby be in that same relationship.
2007-03-05 04:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you want him to be a part of you and your childs life? if so then after the baby is born go for child support then he will either claim the child or they will give him a paturnity test that he will pay because he is the father. but for him to have been abusive towards you whats to say he won't be abusive to the baby especually if he feels anger towards you or even the baby.
2007-03-05 03:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by mj14_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let them think what they wanna think. They will soon notice that they are missin out on something special. and as for the father sue his *** for child support, get a blood test if you have to
2007-03-05 06:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad for your ex. If he treated you right, he would not be in this position. Live your life on your terms with your new man and forget about the other one. You can do it without him.
2007-03-05 03:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋