Where are all the real men, who aren't too cowardly to love? Are they all spoken for or gay? Give me faith.

Question

By the way I dont have a long list of ridiculous requirements like must be rich, must be 6 foot tall, must like the same music as me, must have the exact same lifestyle as me. I grew out of that many many years ago. My requirements are 2: 1(1) is kind and (2) exercises regularly (because I am and I do). Am I asking too much?

By the way I dont have a long list of ridiculous requirements like must be rich, must be 6 foot tall, must like the same music as me, must have the exact same lifestyle as me. I grew out of that many many years ago. I have only 2 requirements: 1) is kind and (2) exercises regularly (because I am and I do). Am I asking too much?

Answer 1

Hey! Well, I'm not really sure what you mean by real men but I'll give you my definition and hope you like it.

To me, a real man is the furthest away from the common metrosexual species that you find in any common bar or club these days. I hate pretty boys...I mean, how can a girl be with someone that spends longer in the bathroom than she does? Moreover, these handsome males are completely infatuated with themselves and there isn't any room for anyone else. So, now that we've established that that's not an option, we need to see what is.

Real men are soprt of hard to find but this is not because there aren't any; it's because they are the guys women usually don't notice. They are the ones that are not eye candy, so to speak, and many women are just not interested in guys that don't dress well or may be missing some hair. Real men are the type to whom women, if they do notice them, usually say..."let's be friends!" Furthermore, real men usually don't show emotions (at least not in public) and women don't like that. BUT! The thing is that when women give these guys a second glance, or a chance they soon discover that guys like that are the best thing out there. They are the ones who will be her rock, treat her like she deserves to be treated, and at the same time not allow her to fall apart; and even if these guys seem completely emotionfree, she will soon discover (patience) that they can love much better than any other guys she's been with.

However, there is a problem with these real men. First of all, most real men are not just born; guys have to work hard to become that way and the thing is, that this metamorphosis does not happen untill they are at least in their late twenties (27-29) or even later. Second, most of these guys have been badly burnt before, or rejected enough times that making them open up to you will take quite a while so you have to have a LOT of patience!!! Third, you have to constantly reassure them that you are not going anywhere (maybe not in spoken language but believe or not, you will be tested on a regular basis and you better not mess up cos one of the key requirements for being a real men is the ability to be self-sufficient; in other words, these guys don't put up with the girly BS and WILL LEAVE). Forth, be prepared to toughen up; like I said, these guys you cannot control or manipulate; they are not going to be your slave just cos you are pretty and they are (usually) not as pretty; they will not respond to reverse psychology (like when you say "I'm fat!" and you expect him to say "no u r not!"...keep waiting cos it ain't gonna happen!). So, if you agree with my definition of what a real men is and you are prepared to date one...lemme tell you where to find one cos believe it or not they are out there...you just have to look hard enough (because finding one is not the tough part!)...it is really worth it, believe me!

So, now you know what you are looking for: older, not a pretty boy, not someone so eager to talk to you (unless he is drunk)-oh, this is the other thing...you will probably have to be the initiator at least at the beginning. So, how about next time you go to a club, you don't look for a real men inside, but at the door. (unfortunately, I have recently discovered that bouncers are often overlooked...) Of course, I am not saying all bouncers are real men (many are wannabes) but you have a better chance of meeting one outside the club than inside! In bars, they will be usually with a group of friends, cos the type you are looking for does not go to bars to drink alone and chase girls. However, I still think the best chance you've got to meet a guy like that is through your buddy's buddy, at the work place, school (that's where I met mine) etc. Just keep your eyes open, be brave and have patience; you'll find one sooner or later.

I hope this helped and good luck to you!

Answer 2

There are still alot of guys out there, I am one of them but there are not many because it would seem that there is no room for a real man.A real man gets more steam that a typical man therefore the need to be one slowly drifts away. But don't go places to find that man in a place full of beer.Go to the park,museum, or just go a place you have never been and he will be there,just don't be affraid when you meet him.

Answer 3

I'm a real man, but happily married. It just takes time to find the right one. My wife didn't me and vice-versa until we were 30. Yeah I had and still have some minor issues, but overall I'm a good man. I cook, wash clothes, sew, iron (if necessary), do homework with the kids and I'm very supportive of my wife.

Answer 4

Real men are very hard to find because most men have been raised by single moms and have been feminized by family and culture. Also, if you google "declining male testosterone levels" , you will find that real men are disappearing through decline of testosterone.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Sorry but I am in a long term relationship with a very great women with whom I will be with till the day I die. I live but to serve her every need.

Answer 6

This question made me laugh. You are so right sister. Most men can't handle the kind of loving I have to give.

Answer 7

if you want a good man, be a good woman,you get what you
are.love yourself and take of yourself,house etc. put God first
and live life,good then come to those who wait, the bible says
Corithians 13 love is patient,and kind record no record of wrongs
It hope,perserve and protects,you live by this and it shall find you.
God bless.

Answer 8

All of the "real men" turn out to be the nice guys that girls want nothing to do with.

Answer 9

Im not too cowardly to love. Unfortunetly, I am a nice guy and that get me nowhere. I am doomed forever :(

Answer 10

There are plenty of good men out there, like this fella answering your question ight now : ) I hope you find what you are looking for