One of my friends wants to have a baby she has started messing with condoms(not sure how) and not taking bc anymore. I am worried about her that she will get what she wants but at 19 yrs old i think this is a bad idea!for her to have a baby plus she cant even clean her room!or drive!Her bf is not much more responsible than her and is a party guy.Should i warn him indirectly?
2007-03-05 02:36:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally i dont get how he has not noticed anything yet?But when she brings up babies in front of him he gets uncomfortable and leaves the room.
2007-03-05 02:40:05 · update #1
I'd tell her boyfriend what she's doing. I'd also tell her I think she's being stupid...it's obvious she's not ready to have a child if she has to "trick" a guy into getting her pregnant.
At this point, you have to think about the child that could be produced from this act. The father is using condoms because he knows he's not ready to have a child and it's very unlikely he will step up and be a parent if she gets pregnant.
She needs to get herself straightened out and then worry about having a baby later, when she's settled and more grown up herself.
2007-03-05 02:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES... That is the worst thing to do is make a guy think they are being safe and the next thing he knows is he has a baby on the way only cause the female played with things and not let him know. Playing with the condoms like poking holes in them and not telling him that she quit he B.C Pills.. Thats is Extremely messed up.. By all means Tell me his email address and I will tell him.. Somone better tell him.. They wont be a happy family at all.. Tell her to get a puppy 1st and see how that works out, then they can talk about having a baby.
2007-03-05 02:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! Warn him directly. If he wanted a kid he wouldn't be using a condom. A child is a life changing thing and he deserves to know what this girl is trying to do to him. He will ultimately be reoponsible for child support for the next 18 years of that child's life let alone medical bills, child care and college tuition. He deserves to know that this girl is taking away his right to not be a father.
2007-03-05 02:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Norma S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her before you do anything else. Try to tell her that there's a reason he doesn't want a kid and if he ends up in that situation because of her dishonesty does she expect him to stick around? If she continues her ways, even though it's not really your place tell the b/f. You'll probably loose a friend over it though.
2007-03-05 02:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a devious, immature, selfish person. You should definitely tell the boyfriend. She should not be doing this without agreement from the boyfriend. You will lose your friend, but you'll be saving a child from a really crappy life with a mom like that.
2007-03-05 02:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. and if that don't work, warn him directly
If he gets uncomfortable and leaves then it means he is not ready for a lot of commitment or a child.
2007-03-05 02:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Nicoletta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him your friend will get mad, but if you dont and she gets pregnant, thats another unwanted baby in the world that wont be cared for. and she dont sound like the smartest person who would give her baby up for adoption. this is an issue that would have to be weighed out in your mind. do you want her mad at you or another baby in the world no one cares for??
2007-03-05 02:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know one way or another as this is not fair on him at all. Suggest to him that he uses his own condoms with her as you suspect she may be tampering, but tell him not to be hard on her.
2007-03-05 02:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well before you take those measures, have you spoken to your friend about it? You should definately confront her about what she is doing. Maybe tell her that if she doesn't stop that you will warn her boyfriend. Good luck!
2007-03-05 02:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i believe you should because even though she wants to have a baby her boyfriend may not be ready but they both should be careful but she does not need to set up in this way
2007-03-05 02:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋