And he told me that he had just came back from a date. Then all of a sudden he said "Damn we had something good, I wonder what happened?" I told him, "only you know, because you broke off the relationship"..He broke it off without giving any reason Afterwards he said he was going to get married and I told him ok then I wont call you anymore. And he said Im just playing, you take everything so serious. He said "If anything its alot easier for you to get me to marry you, I would marry you before I marry another girl"
He also calls me everyday, and I never call or text him But I still love him..I just dont want him to know, because he would have the upper hand. And hes coming to see me on my b-day, he lives in California, and I stay in Fl....Could he be missing me? Whats he trying to say with all of this?
p.s. this sat. he sent me some pics of him, and asked me what I thought?..I just said he looked different, but he wanted me to check him out...
2007-03-05 02:26:33 · 10 answers · asked by gurl20073 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's just wondering if he made the right decision and to me it sounds like in his head he didn't, because why would he call you and mention that he just finished a date with someone else, he obviously still has feelings for you because he was trying to see if he would get a reaction out of you by telling you that he was just on a date, if you truly still have feelings for him then i would tell him especially if it bothers you that he calls up to mention that he is out with someone else. If you live in FL and he is in Cali do you think that a long distance relationship will work? if he still misses you then you need to make it clear to him that you aren't going to play games and if he is serious then you two have to talk about what the future of your relationship should be, if he can't commit then he should just let you live your life and the two of you can still be friends either way he needs to let you really know how he feels and you need to do the same, trust me he does not have the upper hand in this matter
2007-03-05 02:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Weapon X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that after "playing the field" he realized that the girls that are out there don't give him the same feelings he had with you.
Sounds to me like maybe he got some cold feet in your relationship (maybe he realized he was really, truly in love and it scared him)...but now he's realizing that it was stupid to be scared and wants to go back to what you had before but doesn't know how to say it.
If you still care about him...I'd ask him why he broke it off in the first place and if he's interested in starting things back up again.
Just because you love someone, it doesn't give them the upper hand. As long as you don't let him manipulate the situation when he finds out how you feel, you will still be in control of your end of the relationship. Be strong, be upfront and be careful that you don't let him hurt you if he's still not mature enough to deal with commitment in a relationship.
Good luck.
>> As a note...if he's calling you from Cali and you're in Florida, he probably wasn't just looking for a booty call...and saying that he realizes you two had a good thing isn't just fishing for compliments...that was a very vulnerable statement (admitting he made a mistake in letting you go).
I think he's trying to figure out how you feel...he doesn't want to come out and say he's still in love with you and have you crush him by rejecting him so he's testing the waters (with the pictures, etc.).
He could just be a dog...but to me it sounds like he's trying to figure out how to get you back.
2007-03-05 10:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to be caught up in a situation like that. Why not try to talk to him? Ask him straight out why is he treating you like that. Does he have a motive? Is he playing around? And the most important question is Does he still love you? It's afraid to know the truths about love but that's the only way you can be free from your agony. If you still love him strongly then tell him. But also make it clear that you didn't say that so he would be pressured to come back to you. If it were so, tell him too that you do not want to be played around with. make it clear so that you won't get hurt in the end... Goodluck
2007-03-05 10:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Smile2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How convenient that he would call after a bad night? Ex's tend to play mind games with the people they know love them. It's not always intentional, they just want to boost their own self esteem. Don't give him the pleasure! You have to consider yourself first. Sure, you care about him now but, in the back of your mind, you know he's not the one... Get your kicks while he's down. Because once he's feeling back to normal, you will be the last thing on his mind.
2007-03-05 10:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his date didnt work out so he called you.he was probably drinking and thought youd be there. He broke up with you for no reason.Dont put yourself through any more.You deserve so much better.Forget him and move on.There is only more heartache in store for you.He doesnt care about your feelings.Hes inbetween girlfriends right now.Youll do until someone else comes along.Then he'll forget you again.
2007-03-05 10:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was drunk, horny and just wanting a booty call.
Likely his "date" dumped him and his ego is bruised and that is why he called 'ole faithful that he thinks (maybe knows) still has the hots for him to bolster it back up. As soon as he think he "has" you back he is likely to wander again.
2007-03-05 10:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was drunk and lonely because the date didn't work out and he knows you are a sure thing.
2007-03-05 10:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he's missing you. The main point right now tho , is, are you missing him bad enough to go at it again with him??????????
2007-03-05 10:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop answering his calls. he just wants to be assured that someone will be there if it doesn't work out with other gilrs
2007-03-05 10:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by AMS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say go see him and whatever hes try.ng to say or do ...look before you leap
2007-03-05 10:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋