My girlfriend of 6 months goes behind my back and email her ex. She says that she felt as if she had to email her ex and tell him how she felt. They were together for 2 years, and they broke up 5 months ago which is 1 month while she was with me. So she was cheating on me. But the funny thing: It was a long distance relationship all along. They lived 11 hours from each other and they met online. But she is still in love with him but he has a girlfriend. She doesn't want me to talk to my ex but she's willing to talk to hers and I told her about this. What shoud I do?
2007-03-05 02:26:24 · 10 answers · asked by Only human 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can only tell you what I would do, preserve my dignity. You cannot have a relationship with anybody who has an emotional unresolved romantic attachment to someone else. So either put up with it or dont, either way the relationship will end badly, she is obviously not fully commited to you, but you can still salvage some dignity and self respect.
2007-03-05 02:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by cimra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel about it. Maybe she will understand that if the shoe were on the other foot, she would have a problem with it and change but if she doesn't change. Give her a break. It is obvious that she still loves him and is not ready to get over him. She should not take you along for her emotional rollercoaster. If you wanna be with her, give her time to herself. See if she gets over it and see if she goes back to him, if so, forget her. She is already being difficult this early in the relationship, save yourself the heartache, this sounds like a rebound relationship anyway
2007-03-05 02:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to sit down with your ex and let her know you do not appreciate her go behind your back and talking to ex when she did not want you to talk to yours and that you can not see why she is expressing her feelings to him when she should be expressing to you as you are there for when she wants to talk as that option is always open. Since you know he has a girlfriend and does want anything to do with her, then tell her that and that what happened between him and her is now over and that she needs to focus on you and the relationship before something happens and she is going to wish that she had of. The relationship seems fixable if she is willing to work it out, but it is going to be up to you to let her know that and let her decide what she wants to do. Tell her you will understand what her decision is despite what you might think.
2007-03-05 02:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This had happened to me. My boyfriend and his ex was still communicating after 4 years of being separated but what made this more hurtful to me was that his parents wanted him to get back with her. One night he left my house to pick her up from the airport, and then lied and said he went to work. Only reason how I found out was because I checked his email.
So maybe she is still in love with him. Love don't fade overnight, it takes time.
2007-03-05 02:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by cjstudent2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 23:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the obvious she is not over him, you are the rebound guy, she probably is wondering how she could have made it work with her ex, so unless you want to stay with someone who is wondering what life could have been like with another guy, i would find someone else, or get and stay single
2007-03-05 02:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by blonde_goddess2992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her time and do break up with her, if you reall y love her, because people have told me "You never know what you have till' you lose it" and she might stop e-mailing him and pay more attetion to you....trust me, it'll work out just give her time to reliaze what she has lost...she'll come back!
2007-03-05 02:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the rebound guy. Find another girl.
2007-03-05 02:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and put your foot down i wouldnt put up with itbecause she show you she is disrespect you
2007-03-05 02:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. Don't have nothing to do with it.
2007-03-05 02:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by mikegarlandmjg3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋