I want to get pregnant, and some days it's all I can think about. It can get very distracting from the rest of my life. It doesn't help that in the past year, I know a dozen babies that have been born to family and friends. Last year was a year of baby showers, this year is a year of first birthdays. Some advice that I have been given to stop being so upset about it is to "stop thinking about it." But how exactly are you supposed to stop thinking about something you want so bad?? Anyone been through this and have any advice?? I am still waiting for my husband to be "ready" to start trying, so I'm sure that doesn't help either...
2007-03-05 02:22:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well it is something I have always wanted to do with my life, have a family, so it's not like I just started wanting it when everyone else started doing it.
I am using a lot of time working on fundraising and planning a benefit, but it is for a baby so the baby thing is still on my mind! =)
It also doesn't help that most of our friends and family ask a lot "so when are you going to have kids?" (the standard question after a couple gets married, but can be very irritating)
2007-03-05 02:33:43 · update #1
I totally understand what you're going thru!! The first year my husband and I were married we miscarried and then my husband lost his job and didn't want to try again. 3yrs later we started trying ... I felt like I was going crazy w/ it and every baby I saw hurt me. I couldn't help but think about it ALL the time. It got easier after about the first year. It would be even harder if you're attending showers and bdays parties. I avoided children when ever I could!!! I'm sure your husband has given you reasons as to why he's not ready to start trying and if he hasn't then ... get him to explain himself to you so you might be able to handle it a little better. Maybe give your husband a time frame... like say a year. It will give something to look forward and some quality time w/ your husband.
It's completely normal to think about it all the time... try and stay positive and know that your time will come!!
All the Best!
2007-03-05 02:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by second time around 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "ready" to start trying? Does he want kids or not? Looks like a little obsession to me. I suggest that you start thinking why do you want this baby, looks to me like there is something else going on. I mean, why do you want a baby so bad? Im not saying that having a baby is bad, it just looks to me that it has become an obsession. When the time is right you will have a baby, now, I dont think its the right time. Just concentrate on you job and your husband, enjoy the times you have together.
2007-03-05 10:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wait for 4 years to get my first daughter. Between that period, im just like you. I do understood what you meant. Its really kinda frustated. Every end of the month I will hoping and hoping my period will not coming. Hoping thats a sign coming. Until 4 years im waiting. The doctor, friends and family do advised as what you been advised too. Stop thinking about it, its not very easy to do it. Not too difficult too.
What i did is keep myself busy the whole day, involved myself with a lots of programs and activities with kids. Keep busy with the shelter home on weekend, take the kids to playground on the evening. By doing this im not thinking at all about my pregnacy but im started thinking about all the kids that need my helps,. Try to keep yrself busy doing something that involved with kids.
2007-03-05 10:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried babysitting some of those babies??? Maybe one with colic?? Or try hanging out with a 13 0r 14 year old around their parents? I am not saying this because I think kids are a buzz kill, I think they are great. Just if you can experience some of the not so positive parts of being a parent, maybe you will not feel so rushed to concieve. Alot of people who are trying to get pregnant do so when they are not stressed about it.
If you are trying to convince your husband, that is another story. If he is getting older, ask him if he wants to be putting a child through college when he is suposed to be retiring? Or playing sports with his child when his arthiritis kicks in??
Good luck!!
2007-03-05 10:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though you don't have enough fulfillment in your life as it is. A baby isn't going to solve that. I suggest you start getting involved in your community, take on a job or career that is challenging, do some volunteer work. Those things should keep your mind occupied. When the time is right, you will have your child. Until that time, life is passing you by.
2007-03-05 10:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will happen give it time think about how its going to change your life. you know you have to ready for all that comes with having a baby
2007-03-05 10:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't.it took me 5 years to concieve my son we tried all kinds of things.anyway talk to your hubby about your strong feelings your need to have a child they are a blessing from above and the reason for all my gray hair lol.good luck to you!
2007-03-05 10:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋