I am in love...and I thought it was mutual, but last nite he pulled a disappering act again (not answering my phone calls, and ignoring my knocks on the door) and when I finally did see him he was not himself, he was acting out in a suspicious manner; then today when he went to work I found earrings that did not belong to me in his bedroom.......
2007-03-05 02:15:02 · 28 answers · asked by Soo Hurt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He continues to hurt you because you let him. It looks like you found enough evidence to prove there was a reason for him acting suspicious and since you said he pulled the disappearing act again..it's safe to assume this wasn't a one time thing. Even if it was a one time thing, he's still cheating. Leave him. Respect yourself, and find a guy that respects you just as much. Good luck.
2007-03-05 02:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to leave him obivously he is cheating on u and the reason why he still hurts u is b/c u let him. U know that the relationship is no good and that u can get better but u just don't want to leave. Well I've been there and I know where u will end up if u stay with him and its not good. U need to confront him and then dump him b/c he isn't being true to u and u don't need all of that in ur life now. move on and in time u will find someone who will be faithful to u. U can start by not answering his calls and not having any contact with him. B/c as longs as u let him do this he will b/c he knows he can get away with it. Good luck.
2007-03-05 10:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am so sorry you are hurting. I was just cheated on about a month ago. I hope you are okay with direct people; I am just going to get straight to the point. He is only continuing to hurt you because you let him. If he has behaved like this before and you have brought this up to him and let him know how you feel then you have done your part; If he cared about you he would stop this if he wasn't doing anything wrong. Go with your gut, if you have to, detatch yourself (emotionally) from him. You have to protect yourself from being hurt. Nobody else will do it for you. If you really love him just wait it out to see what he does. If he loves you and notices you backing off, he will stop and try to work on things with you. Good luck.
2007-03-05 10:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by chelsea-girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You continue to let him hurt you. You said that you are in love and that you thought the feeling was mutual. Did he ever tell you that he loved you or you just assumed it? Our emotions always seem to get the best of us and at times we are too blind to see the truth for what it is. It's time for you to take a step out and look at your relationship and asks yourself a couple of questions; do I need to continue this relationship, am I the other girl on the side...... Get down to the bottom and follow your mind because usually our hearts tell us to stay when our minds tell us to go.
2007-03-05 10:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by cjstudent2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hunt him down. When he doesn't answer your calls - leave a message he'll call you back. Some guys don't like being smothered - a little space goes a long way.
About finding the earrings - ask him about it, listen and think and then come to a conclusions. Remember, there is always someone else waiting to love you!
Good luck!
2007-03-05 10:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Only Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahaha, you pathetic sad sorry individual. if you spent all night calling a guy and knocking on the door to his place and he didn't once answer, then he doesn't want to talk to you. leave him alone. the best part about this is you said "again" meaning he has done this before and most likley more than once. i'd let you figure it out from here but your thought process is obviously not working. he doesn't love you he doesn't even like you, if he did he would respect you, but it's easy to tell he doesn't and easy to understand why, because your crazy, you let people treat you like an object and rather than have a rational responce to rejection you hit denial. so why bother respecting someone who has no respect for themselves?
2007-03-05 10:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by nightmare_gorilla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are letting him hurt you. Men will only do what you allow them to. You need to leave this guy. If he is ignoring your calls/ knocks, then maybe he is trying to tell you something. Take the hint. If you continue to stick with him, then you will be the hurting yourself. Leave him!
2007-03-05 10:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop him now! You don't deserve that. And most likely he knows that he is treating you badly which is prob why he is acting so different. Most likely he is cheating on you, but I would talk to him about it, see what he says. You know him so you'll know those lying eyes! Guys hurt girls sometimes unintintionally, but maybe it's time to kick him to the curb, no girl deserves that kind of treatmeant!
2007-03-05 10:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by YoungLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone who is married and had him cheat on me and me cheating on him.....he's feeling guilty about messing around on you. I can almost guarantee if you confront him about the ear rings he is going to say something to lay the blame on you....for example "why was you snooping around?" "You must be the one with something to hide if you think I'M the one doing something". Your best bet is to kick him to the curb! There are alot of other people who would treat you alot better. and if you stay with him, it will only make him think he can walk all over you any time he wants
2007-03-05 10:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by eeyore20_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he continue to hurt you because you let him and you 6th sense is telling you that everything about him is not right and again you are not trusting yourself. Decide when you what the hurt to stop and it will... You deserve much better
2007-03-05 10:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by janice m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋