my girlfriend cheated but.........?

Question

i met my girlfriend in 2003. i just found out she cheated on me once in 03, 04, and 05 each time with the same guy. He is her ex but lives abroad now but when he has come back she has cheated. she says she didnt think i was serious during them times but i think i am the same now as i was then. 2 other thing are
1) ive cheated on her over 10 times. but hey, it was just sex and
im a guy and she has never found out. should i except it as a eye for a eye or do i need to find trust.
2) the sex is real good, real real good
should i keep her for a bit on the side cos i know i could still get a piece even if i were with someone else.. i know i seem hypocritical but hey im a product of my enviroment. HELP. no feministic replys please

Answer 1

Sounds like the way that you guys use each other for every reason opposite of what a relationship is for....uh yer doing great, ride that rotting horse to the bitter ugly end!!!

Answer 2

I'm not going to consider this a "feminist" reply, but I'm going to be honest. At first, I was feeling bad for you - she cheated on you, how could she? But I really don't understand how you can possibly be upset when you've been keeping this behind her back (more than three times what she's done!). That's incredibly hypocritical. I don't think this relationship should continue in any way, because neither of you are honest with each other and obviously don't really give a damn about the other's feelings. "I'm a guy" is NOT an excuse for cheating, I don't care who you are (feminist or not).

Answer 3

Well if you've cheated too then you can hardly get annoyed that she's cheated on you. An eye for an eye as you said. Also, she'll probably do it again, as will you. I'm quite surprised you've been together so long cuz you don't seem very into each other but each to their own I guess! Sounds to me like you both deserve each other.

Answer 4

Sounds like you just need to change your relationship to friends with benefits. You've both cheated, and aren't at a point in your lives where you want to be faithful to another person. Sit down, and have an honest conversation with each other; lay everything out, and see what happens.

Answer 5

This makes no sense - you want to end the relationship because your girlfriend cheated on you with her ex? But then you say that you cheated on her.

So neither of you are completely happy in this relationship.

So why are either of you actually bothering with it?

After 4 years neither of you is willing to be in a mutually exclusive, committed relationship so give up, grow up and move on.

Answer 6

Wow! you guys are not bf/gf your friends with benefits. There is no relationship involved. So trust is not an option for you on this one. Your entitled to screw anyone you want its your business how many you have and how many times you do it is entirely up to you bud. Just remember there are consquences so be ready to deal with them.

Answer 7

If you cheated on her then obviously she isn't the one for you

You wouldn't cheat on the girl you love and to be honest she couldn't have loved you either to have cheated on you

Break up with her and no on the side Bull-crap just end it and find someone that ticks all you boxes not just one

Answer 8

Well obviously you do not love each other else neither of you would be going else where, carry on doing what you are doing until you find the right person for you.

Answer 9

She has probably worked out that you had affairs, she is not neccesarily stupid. And I hate it that ******s like you say that when a guy has sex, he is 'only a guy, after all', but when it's a girl she's a complete ****. You should both quit seeing each other, you are both *******.

Answer 10

keep up the good work mate dont matter how many times she cheats keep her 4 when you dont pull remember you dont miss a slice once the bread is open