Yes I know it's wrong. But what my real question is, what if I don't care and just do it, would God make me divorce my wife. But for a person who is already a non Christian to a Christian the person is adviced not to divorced his wife. But what if the person is a Christian and then marry a non Believer, then how? How big a sin is it to marry a non Christian? I haven't started dating the girl in specific though I love her so much and I know she likes me. I haven't started anything though tempted. I want answers from real Christians. Those that believe in the Holy Spirit for their guidance on Earth.
2007-03-05 02:12:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is only three solutions to this:
I either be willful to God and do what I like which I am not sure what is the consequences though I have a rough idea the consequences but not 100% sure.
Or
try to make her a Christian, marry her if she is a Christian if I will date her as a non Christian or whatever is the appropriate thing to do.
Or
If she does not wants to be a Christian then I will have to just forget her.
2007-03-05 02:13:32 · update #1
She is not my gf even. I mean should I even attempt to date her and maybe even eventually marry her. I am not married and I am a virgin. She is a very decent girl. I am a Chinese and she is a Chinese. I can tell you this much, she is much gentle and understanding than some Christian girls I know and I wish to date her and marry her and I want to give my virginity to her when I marry her assuming one day I marry her. But the biggest barrier ever is religion. But I love God more than her because I love God and I do not wish to fight God. God's first commandment is to put him above all things. So I might not even date her though I know she likes me and how much I like her? I wish and want to marry her!!
2007-03-05 02:17:04 · update #2
Most Chinese is Buddhist and believes in deities. I saw a idol in her car. Some religious stuff.
2007-03-05 02:23:05 · update #3
I think she is a buddhist but I may be wrong. But it is some kind of idol religion. I just had a quick glance at the idol from far. But my guess is she is a buddhist or some kind of religion that I can able to speak in Cantonese, but not sure how to say it in English.
2007-03-05 02:24:37 · update #4
If you marry her, not only will God not require you to divorce her, He will not allow it! You don't marry someone, committing your life to her, and then divorce her because she is not a Christian.
Is it wrong to marry her? Well, 2 Corinthians 6 says not to put yourself under an unequal yoke with an unbeliever.
If your Christian faith and relationship with Christ is important to you, and she doesn't share that, you will be walking in opposite directions in the matter which is most important to you.
If you try to convert her in order ot marry her, you could get a temporary "convert"!
I would suggest you look for a Christian girl who is gentle and kind as this one is. There are some. Be patient.
On the other hand, if you do marry her, or if you do any other thing knowingly against God's will, you will not be struck by lightening: God loves you, and shows His will for you because He wants the best for you. So your decision will carry its own consequences. It will reduce your possibility of serving the Lord; it will take away the possibility of having spiritual Christian fellowship with your wife; it will communicate to her that your Christian faith isn't really that important, it is an optional thing with you, when it is convenient. It will make it virtually impossible to bring your children up in the Christian faith. (I know some YA participants think you should never teach your faith to a child, but they are approaching the subject from the point of view that Christian faith isn't true any way).
2007-03-05 02:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In so many ways, you answer your own question. Yes, it is a sin to marry a non believer, as God says not to be unequally yoked. That doesnt mean we cant marry another race, as some claim. hogwash. It means we cant be unequally yoked with a person that is not a believer when we are, doesnt work, causes conflict and God says no to it . Anything that you are willfully disobeying God is sin, and God says obededience leads to blessing and disobedience leads to curse. ANd He knows way more than we do about everything. He knows the destruction that comes from it, and also to the kids from these types of marriages. There is no big sin and little sin. Sin is sin. Sin is anything that is contrary to what God tells us in His word to do and not do. If you havent started anything yet, dont. Stay in prayer about it. NOthing is worth giving up your salvation for, and it doesnt work anyhow to be unequally yoked. Sometimes we do things and then say Why did God allow this awful stuff? And, yet it was we that went against something God said and brought it to ourselves. Weird part is many then, blame God..... No, God gives us the freedom to make our own choices, and then we each get to live with wonderful rewards for making the right ones for the Lord, or suffereing lifetime conseuences for being rebellious and ignoring what God says. I do believe in the Holy Spirit, and God tells us in HIs word, that the Holy Spirit is also God, as well as Jesus, and Father God. To ignore God, is serious business, and I cant state that strong enough. But, He love syou enough to give you the right to choose. You can disobey, as God forces noone, but then remember when life falls apart, dont blame God, as He tries so hard to warm us all of what disobedience will bring.
Choose Wisely and Soon to obey God and noone else. Only He knows what is best for each of us.
2007-03-05 04:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What GOD has put together let no man put assunder. You shouldn't marry anyone unless you are sure God wants you to marry that person. To many times people marry because they are both "Christian" and they like each other, even "love" each other, but if God doesn't bring you together, then it is wrong. I know because I have been there and done that. I married for love and thought that was right. I was wrong. I got divorced after 4 years. Then, I let God handle it and I have been married for 16 and a half years. It has been difficult because I tried to get my own way, but God gave me a man that would stand up to me and lead me according to God's plan.
2007-03-05 02:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was an atheist for most of his life. Iam a Christian.7 Years ago he found God. We have been together 22 1/2 years. We decided when we first got together religion and God was not to be discussed between us. I had my spiritual life and he had his non belief life. We were happy. Then after some things beyond his control he found God in the mix of things and has been a faithful servant since then.
2007-03-05 02:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of every Christian wedding the Preacher says :"What God has join together let not man put assunder". God's word says "Be not unevenly yoked with non-believers" Therefore it does not matter how many Preachers you stand in front of a get "Married" if God has not joined you, you are not joined.
2007-03-05 02:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by PREACHER'S WIFE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not make you divorce her. He doesn't believe in divorce.
The Bible says not to be un-equally yoked. Marrying a non-Christian girl would defiantly be un-equal. Don't even start a relationship with a non-Christian. It will hurt too much to give your heart and then find out that you're un-equal and it will cause more problems for married life. Pray for her....Invite her to Church. But don't get involved with her as anything more and if you need to, tell her why. Let her make her own decision too.
Blessings to you my brother, I'll be praying for you.
2007-03-05 02:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's not wrong to marry an unbeliever. As a matter of fact, the Bible says that it's possible for the husband or wife to "sanctify" each other through being a witness in front of them and possibly converting them through God's witness in their lives.
2007-03-05 03:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by bigvol662004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Apostle Paul does not, as one poster put it "suggest" you not be unequally yoked.
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, and will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty."2.Cor:6.14-18.
In this passage Paul says specifically not to get yoked to an unbeliever in that they are your spritual opposite: "unrighteousness", "darkness", "Belial", "unclean."
That's not a suggestion. It is a declaration that you getting yoked to the forces of evil is like Jesus marrying Satan. Could that be more clear a prohibition?
2007-03-05 02:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is a good person, her religion or lack of religion is a non-issue. Ask her out, get to know her, if it's right, it's right, and you will know. Don't make the mistake of nor exploring the possibility and wondering and regretting it for the rest of your life.
How you feel about each other is ALL THAT MATTERS!
2007-03-05 02:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a sin. It's just a bad idea.
To clarify, being unequally yoked is a bad idea. But from the tone of your question, I suspect it wouldn't be a problem at all for you.
2007-03-05 02:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋