I want to have an*l s*x with my girlfriend but when we do it she bleeds and its really painful for her. We use lube but is there anyway i can make it pleasurable for her?
2007-03-05 02:00:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start with a lubed finger and try the position where both of you are on your side with her back to your front that way there is less stretching for her.
2007-03-05 02:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start small, purchase if you have to. Work up to the real thing (you know what I mean). It will take time, patience and practice on both parts. She may never be into it. But hurting her isn't going to make her like it! Be understanding and work with her on this. Maybe eventually, it will be a turn on for her. Time will tell.
2007-03-05 10:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to do it real slow and soon she'll get used to it. I used to do that, my 1st 5 times but now I can do it as long as I want and it never happens. Make sure you go slow though b/c otherwise, OWW! You also can't go to long b/c if it starts getting dry, it'll have the same Oww effect.
2007-03-05 10:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Afrodyty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to http://www.adameve.com and find an anal toy that is for beginners to help loosen it up for her so it does not hurt. If you dont like toys then you need to use a finger to start out to get her muscles relaxed then work your way bigger but do it slowly or it will be painful for her.
2007-03-05 10:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's hurting then there is no way to make it pleasurable, unless of course she's into pain!
2007-03-05 10:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by chelelab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't just forcing your way in are you? Make sure you stretch her out a bit first, using a couple of fingers. Until she is used to it, she should be on top and in control.
2007-03-05 10:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, let her lube your backside and shove something in you-see how you like it! sex is about doing things you both enjoy, so maybe you should try pleasing her first, instead of yourself! and last time i checked, the nerve endings were in the clitoris, which is not located in the butt.
2007-03-05 10:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DOn't be so rough.
Use your fingers and tongue to relax her, and get her ready. Be gentle with insertion, take your time, go a little at a time, letting her adjust naturally to the size.
2007-03-05 10:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by no1bucsfan26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stop doing it with her, why would you do something that hurts her???.. OMG
they say that guys who like doing it are Bi anyways so find a guy friend..
2007-03-05 10:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by gregory_usa83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try putting your finger in first for a few days then start over again
2007-03-05 10:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by josiesmom305 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋