my daughter is ten years old and she has been more distant from me i know she's a girl and naturally is closer to mom so how can i gain some of my daughters attention back ? i dont want her to feel that daddy is the enemy!!!!
2007-03-05 02:00:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was sooo close to my dad growing up, and I still am. We went through some horrible rocky times when I was about 11-14, just the prepubescent phase.
He worked for a fuel company, and to make up for all the time we were missing, I would go with him on his night time emergency calls. It was fun to sit and talk with him.
I'd take her out from time to time. Dont try to buy her stuff to gain her friendship, it only makes you a sugar daddy and thats all she'll see you as until real life kicks in.
My dad took me to music fests with friends when i was about 12. It was sooooo much fun. We all camped like hippies in our cars...
Just DO stuff with her, she'll talk to you, cause thats what girls do. You dont need to force conversational bonding.
2007-03-05 02:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that there was an event that caused these feelings (divorce maybe ?).
Time heals all wounds. Try to be understanding and make the time to reach out and show interest in her interests. Give her time and space to come around. Let her know that you love her no matter what and you always will.
If she is a girly girl, maybe a day of clothing shopping or something like that.
Good luck. Hang in there. My husband has three girls.......it is hard to compete with the "mom" thing sometimes.
2007-03-05 10:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by WUDDALIFE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to see this now. I suggest a special outing with her, to the movies (of her choice) or even better to dinner (just her). She's going through so much right now and mom has all the answers, don't try to be a part of this but rather show her that you uderstand that 'daddy's little girl" is now becoming a woman. Make it a point to listen about her day (reguardless of how mundane it is) and even tell her about yours. It's time to start treat her like a pre-teen.
2007-03-05 10:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is becoming more hormonal.. and this is an awkward time for her. You'll need to be patient with her. I am sure there is something you can do with her.. does she like to bike ride or skate.. play ball.. dolls, shopping.. find something she likes and take her to do it. Try to do this once or twice a month.. if you can a week is better.. but know it is hard. I am sure you both can get a great relationship going then. I remember missing my dad at that age cause he was always busy.. I think it is great that you are wanting to be more involved. Good luck.
2007-03-05 10:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get interested in what she's interested in. Spent some quality time with her. Take her out for a dad/daughter night. go bowling to the movies whatever. just let her know you want to be involved. If she takes dance classes or something go watch her. little things make a big difference. If you want her attention your going to have to give attention. good luck and I commend you on wanting to be a good father!
2007-03-05 10:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set asside some time for just the both of you take her to a movie or just to mcdonalds or some where like that. My 10 year old was very attached to me also and my husband just started taking her more places just him and her and now she is daddys girl when she wants anything she goes straight to him
2007-03-05 10:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by julie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe plan a night or two out of a week for you and her only. Just take her out and do fun things together and let her know you love her and want to spend time with her. I am sure she loves you to. Just try the taking her out and spending time with her and ask her about school, about how her day went, just show her you are interested in things that she does and are interested in her life. Let her know she can talk to you about anything, etc. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 10:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused by your question, all of my girls are daddy's girls after they hit 1 year old the love my husband to death. I'm usually the one trying to get them to want to do stuff with me. Just take your daughter out on daddy/daughter dates. Listen to what she says and spend time with her. On the other hand, my parents divorced when I was 3, my mom actually listened to me and we spent quality time together. My dad just overloaded me with activities and bought me stuff when we were together, he hardly wanted to just talk. I've never been close to my dad.
2007-03-05 10:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal stage for her to go through. Perhaps she is beginning puberty, a very awkward time!
What are her interests? Do some fun-daddy daughter activities with her. This phase will pass, and she will appreciate your effort!
2007-03-05 11:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Laura H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age her hormones are changing along with her body. My 10 yr old recently started her period. She acted quite different before her big change. Now that she's maturing she isn't as goofy with her dad as she used to be. I'm sure she doesn't see you as the enemy, she's just trying to figure stuff out...they're very confused an very emotional at this age. One minute they're happy and great and within seconds, they want to cry....
2007-03-05 11:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by chelelab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋