How do you know if u are really in love? How long did it take for you to fall in love, or when did u first realize that u were?
Is it possible to love someone that has qualities about the that you dislike, but accept them as they are anyway? Or someone that you argue with alot, but also share good times with? Im just asking cuz I;ve been hurt before and since then i would not let my feelings fly away anymore, so that if me and new guy doesn't work out and we split, I wouldn't feel as hurt. Do u know what I mean? But that interferes with everything now. Well, anyway when did u fall in love or first realize it?
2007-03-05 01:53:59 · 19 answers · asked by MedTq367 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love and lust are confusing. If you love someone you will forever be dedicated to them, no one will be able to deter you in any way. No one will be attractive to you but your beau. You focus only on them. Lust is about the same but not long lasting. It may take a few years to figure it out but when the sex is gone and you still want to be with them all the time, then it is love.
2007-03-05 01:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just took some clues from what you said, "has qualities you don't like and argue a lot" you can think you love somebody like that, but I don't think you should be with that person. And seriously you know that or you would have not asked the question.
Having some good times does not make a relationship, even the worst people in the world have some fun time, family time, do things that seem nice.
2007-03-05 10:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by cimra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel in love about 1year ago. And I realized it when, I would talk to other guys and just think of him.(Oscar) Its not somthing you can feel. Love is a feeling that is unfelt. Because love is something that GOD brings your way when he feels the time is right. And it is possible to fall in love with someone who annoys you. Thats what makes you fall in love with that person. Its those little qualities that annoy you, that make you so happy, because noone else does it like them..
And dont let bad experience from other relationships interfere with your future ones. Because once you do that, you let your exs control you. even if they arent aware of it. And thats not fair to those good guys who want a chance with you...
2007-03-05 10:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by gurl20073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am in love because after 5 years I do not see myself without that person...I look into his eyes and I see myself...I am willing to accept every one of his bad qualities...I still feel the buttferflies I felt when I first met him..He is still the same adorable person..I love all of him unconditionally...I think it takes a few years to know if your really in love...People have been together for 3-4 years and then break up...They give up...If your really in love you won't give up on love...If your young going through different growing up stages you may questioned your love because of all those confusing stages you experience but it doesnt mean you don't love that person...I went through it myself im 23...You'll know right away when your in love don't rush it...
2007-03-05 10:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not really about a feeling but a decision to love that person unconditionally, even when the honeymoon stage has ended. your building a wall because u have been hurt in the past, and haven't resolved it yet. building walls up so we won't experience hurt anymore, will never work. falling in love is the easy part, staying in love isn't. they all are going to have things about them that may turn us off from time to time. but we decide to stay and love no matter what your circumstances are. falling in love means u don't see their imperfections, that u love than no matter what, but after u get to know the real them, that's the catch, to stay even if u have problems, and work it out.
2007-03-05 10:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be around them more after the first 3month infatuation wears off?
Do you ask yourself how does this next thing I'm doing effect us (not me)?
Do the things you do together make both your lives brighter?
I was once but niether of us was ready for it. No regrets. Its not about loving everything about them it's if you can accept what you don't like without wanting to change them. No risk= no reward. people who havn't made mistakes, havn't done anything at all.
2007-03-05 10:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by canadaguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, if you're in love, you'll know it. you wont have to ask or second guess yourself.
second, yes you can love someone even if there are things about them you dislike. no one is perfect, and you cant expect them to be.
the first time i fell in love, i was 15. and i was so in love with this guy i didnt relieze how much he was hurting me, and i believed all his lies. and i let it go on for over 5 years. until i realiezed that he didnt love me as much as i loved him and it wasnt worth it. and i did the same thing you are doing now, i tried to keep myself from falling for anyone, but i ended up falling for my ex's friend anyway. we had been friends, and we got closer after the break-up (he was the one i went to for support) and 3 days later, we started dating. a week later he told me he loved me. i was scared, but i really liked this guy. i reliezed i've been in love with him a long time, i just wouldnt admit it to myself. we've been together almost 4 years now, i would fight anyone tooth and nail for him.
2007-03-05 10:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl take a breath you will kno when its tru cuz u wont b able to take a single breath without thinking about him and if you really LOVE him being hurt shouldnt be a problem every flaw to him should be the best thing to you
2007-03-05 10:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by T.Q C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tell you the whole truth, there is nothing called true love, its just like a santa ferrytale. Love is imaginary and a feeling of attraction
2007-03-05 09:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by loxzibit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, you can only know afterwards. I know this sounds unorthodox, but when love has gone (that is, physically gone,) and you regret it, then for sure you were in love. If you didn't even regret it, then what you primarily felt was probably some false feeling.
2007-03-05 10:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by Dowland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋