The band is more practical for her and she is more comfortable wearing that. But at the same time ring is traditional and every one will be expecting for that. Too bad I can’t ask her but your feed back would be really helpful.
2007-03-05 01:44:07 · 29 answers · asked by nio796 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the safest is to let her decide. So first propose, then go search for what SHE wants...
Here's what I did with my wife: I got her a totally ridiculous, kitsch plastic ring from a toy store, and proposed to her with this ring during a romantic dinner at a funky restaurant. I included a special note saying "her engagement ring is hers for keeps, so she has the privilege to decide". The entire evening was great and VERY special, and she really appreciated the fact that she could pick her own ring.
If you go for this idea, it's important that you join her at the shops to find it, otherwise she may feel you're "passing the buck". Anyhow, it's great fun deciding on it together.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 02:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler Durden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you propose, the engagement ring comes first. A wedding band comes with the wedding ceremony.
If in doubt, propose to her anyway, without the ring, and go shopping together for the ring to pick out something both of you like. It's a ring that she'll wear forever, so make it special (not necessarily expensive).
Good Luck,
Brian Norris
www.positively.biz
2007-03-05 09:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring usually has a diamond or other jewel in it. A plain band is what you give each other when saying the vows at your wedding. If she doesn't like rings with big stones because she feels they are uncomfortable, get a smaller stone. Just make it a solitare (one stone) and it shouldn't get in the way. Once you two are married, she doesn't have to wear it anymore, she can just wear the plain gold or platinum band. It would be a nice keepsake to have the solitare because she can keep it and pass it down to her daughter some day. Hope this helps. I wish you both a long and happy marriage, congratulations!
2007-03-05 09:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Gayle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the simple band is a wedding band and in that case, no engagement ring is used. This is a very Eastern European tradition. You can go with a simple band, but regardless of what they say on the outside, women really seem to want to show off a rock to their friends. I'd go for a modest solitare engagement ring if I were you. Some family owned jewelry stores have estate rings (ones they bought from estates) that go for better $$.
2007-03-05 09:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the traditional ring. That is the first thing a girl wants to show off is the ring. If you got the band now what would you get her for the wedding?
2007-03-05 09:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by chrisisdifferent 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should propose in whatever way reflects you as a couple, and her. If she doesn't like a traditional ring, then don't force it on her! Plenty of women don't like the traditional diamond solitaire. Do what feels right for you and keep her feelings in mind. If you are sure she doesn't want the diamond, then don't get the diamond. Also - most jewelers do allow you to exchange the ring, so if she doesnt' like whatever decision you make you can always correct it and let her pick out what she wants.
2007-03-05 09:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes going to be estatic either way because she loves you and will be excited your engaged. Go with what your first instinct says. If you get her just a band because you feel thats more of what she wants you can always buy a ring later on. Most girls would prefer a ring though..
2007-03-05 09:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by ...Melissa... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always buy the ring after you propose, with her help. There is no rule saying that you need the ring to ask someone to marry you. The proposal is about your love for her, not about a materialistic symbol. She loves you, so she will not mind. Plus, she will probably appreciate you letting her have the choice of the ring she wants.
2007-03-05 09:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly would prefer the guy to talk to me about it.
Has she dropped hints on rings? A style?
If not ask her what she would like, or get one of her friends to.
I would want a ring I wanted and picked out you know? You may not understand that.
I showed my bf the ring I liked. When he gives me that ring and not just any ring..... I will know he was thinking about me.
Has she told her friends? Or get your sister too or something.
2007-03-05 09:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to buy her the most expensive rock that was ever made, don't do it. They're so material and want to show it off to all their girlfriends. If you don't go all the way and do the BEST that money can buy, you'll be even more miserable than ALL married men.
2007-03-05 09:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋