Like you'd think we would - but I for one keep getting it wrong!!! I should - at 30 years of age be able to spot a player - user- liar - cheater by now... yet I keep going for the wrong type of guy - even when Ive convinced myself Ive finally landed a good one - they too turn out to be morons!!!! Am I the only one with this problem!!?
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2007-03-05 01:32:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thx for the answers so far everyone - but can I just point out that I have altered the kind of guy I go for - I have started trying new social places and I STILL attract the wrong type!!!!!! Maybe Im destined to be alone... FOREVER!!!! thanks guys! xx
2007-03-05 02:08:37 · update #1
One day you'll find him. What goes round comes around, those morons will always be morons but you -you'll always be nice., and the best form of revenge is to get on with your life and be happy.xx
2007-03-05 01:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by cagsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of your answers are in your question.
You say you keep going for the wrong type of guy. My bet is that you also dimiss those guys you are friends with but are 'too nice'?
And then you say 'you convince yourself that you have landed a good one'. How about letting them do the convincig beofer you give yourself away.
Stop chasing and start leading, stop lookig outwards to find a mate and start looking inwards to improve your confidence, resiliance and inner resources.
When I had this problem I drew up a list of what I really wanted from a partner and I stuck out until I got most of the boxes checked. I married my partner of 8 years two weeks ago - he's certainly no moron.
2007-03-05 01:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly not the only one who feels this way as many people who have been in relationships like that experience the same things. Just remember that you can find the right one for you that will treat you right and see you for you and not just some bombshell waiting to hit the red carpet for her debut. So you have found some bad ones that happens to everyone I am sure but you know what kind of guy you are interested in and what works for you and what does not. You have a great since of who is telling the truth and who is not, you have done the best you can and all you can do is keep trying. Giving up is simply not the answer.
2007-03-05 01:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No probably not the only one !! but if you change tact a bit and perhaps look for something different in a guy !! instead of your usual type of guy !! yes guys can be deceiving but i think if after about a month if you have not worked him out by then !! the onus is on you !! At the most two months then re evaluate your relationship and where you are going and what you want out of it !!
just some friendly advice cowboy5
2007-03-05 01:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by cowboy5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey relax, so all the guys you have been with so far weren't a match for you, that's okay, not everyone will be! But's it's a good thing, because now you get to try and find Mr perfect all over again, and you will. The whole story about kissing frogs before you find a prince didn't come out of nowhere you know.
2007-03-05 01:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a part of you that longs to be used. The only way you are going to over come this subconscious longing is to cut yourself off from men altogether. If you do not let a man have you, you will not risk being used. purchase some toys and let the local men go with out for a few months, or year.
2007-03-05 12:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, guys make those mistakes too.
I noticed a pattern in my relationships also - always going for the same things, ending up playing the same role, and having the same (disappointing) result.
I sat down and took a cold, hard look at what I was doing, and tried a new angle. In my case, I think I was picking people I knew it wouldn't work out with in the long term, because I wasn't ready for that.
I might be, now.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 01:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be that you are attracted to the same sort of guys.Maybe give someone a go in the future who you wouldnt always necessarily go for.Starting as friends and seeing how you get on is always a good idea.The strongest relationships are built on friendship.
Its always the nice ones that get hurt,the morons just walk away and always seem to fall on their feet.
But they say what goes around comes around so there,ll be someone out there who,ll put them in there place.
DONT LOSE FAITH.Not all men are users and liars,you just have to find one of the few that are,nt.
Good luck x
2007-03-05 01:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lorraine D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot always spot a "rat" when you first meet them, but after a few dates you should be able to spot it, if you are at all unsure do not get any further involved with them. You will meet someone eventually try going to different places to meet different types of guys. Good luck to you hope you find a guy who makes you happy,
2007-03-05 02:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not that you keep pursing the wrong type of man.. it is that somewhere, there is something you as a person are exuding that these type of men see as a weakness and they will prey on that!! The best thing to do.... is take a good hard look at yourself and be honest about you... when you start to change your views of yourself or whatever it is that you give off as a weakness,.... those type of men will not follow you... because they will realize you are not weak.... and they cant run all over you
2007-03-05 01:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by successisgolden 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋