Does my ex girlfriend want to get back with me?

Question

My ex-girlfriend of 9 mths broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We haven't had any contact for 1 mth. I decided to not contact her to give her some space.

I was thinking I would contact her in the next few days to "test the waters".

She contacted me a few days ago. She said hi and that it had occurred to her she owed me some money and could she call me to discuss. I am not fussed about her giving me the money.

I said I was fine and asked how she was and told her she didn't need to give me money. She replied and said she was fine and that she had a dvd of mine and suggested she bring it round to me.

I didn't know what to do really so suggested we speak on the phone in the next couple of days.

Is she interested or is it just about letting me have the dvd back? I don't know what to make of it?

I want her back but don't want to be too pushy. What do I do? Am I reading too much into this?

Thanks people. I think her coming to mine might not be the best option. I will suggest coffee i.e. with no pressure. Any suggestions on how to deal with the meet up??

Answer 1

Somtimes a break does you good, sounds like she's missing you, What will be will be.xx

Answer 2

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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Answer 3

Tough one hun, seems you have answered your own question

maybe she does want to give it another go and using the money and DVD as an excuse, just let her bring it round and see what happens...dont push it like you said just be normal with her ask how things are etc and see how it goes, she may want to bring something else round if this happens its a good sign she wants you back then take it from there

if you dont hear from her within a week id leave it hun

Answer 4

MMM always a difficult one to read into to and unless she does come around and you speak to each other face to face don't think you going to answer your own question.
think she possibly is trying to find anything of yours that she has as an excuse to come see you, under the pretence of giving sed item back ! if she does come around don't agree to the first day that she suggests IE soz cant do Tuesday as I'm busy how about weds make her think that your busy and will have to wait til your ready or free. but if you do want her back don't tell her wait to see what she has to say for herself when she turns up incase its not the same thing you want and you dont want to lay all your cards on the table to get egg on your face ! and your not being pushy she has made the first move and it seems the ball is in your court good luck with it hope it works out the way you want !

Answer 5

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 6

My friend had a boyfriend once who would break up with her then ask to meet her to give her a c.d back or some item she,d left at his house.She would meet up with him in floods of tears and he,d say 'I dont know why Im breaking up with you'.He,d then cuddle kiss her but stay adament that they needed a break then when she didnt get in touch again he,d ring her and say he wanted her back.This happened loads of times.He always called the shots.So be careful,it does sound like shes missed you and if you really care then go for it,meet up and test the waters.But if shes one to keep breaking up and then wanting to give you your belongings back then tell her to keep them!
and move on.You can do without someone who cant make their mind up.
If I was her though I wouldnt be bothered about giving you a dvd unless you asked 4 it so shes deff still thinking about you.

Answer 7

You are reading too much into it. My opinion is she is trying to be nice. She's probably only trying to be friends with you. That's the only thing you can do right now is be friends. If you two stay friends maybe something will happen again, you never know. But if you let this eat you up inside then it will probably never work out. You might scare her off or something if you do become pushy.

Answer 8

It sounds like she's using the dvd as an excuse. Don't reject her especially since you want to get back together. It was a good idea that you gave the relationship some space. Now, she probably realizes what she's missing. I should have done that. I got back immediately with my ex and things got worse.

Answer 9

Well how do regard this girl, did or do you love her if she met another you may never have that chance again to be together, one point is she is speaking to you, if you want her back it should be for the right reasons would you Marie her! if it's deep enough take the bull by the horns and don't waist a moment of time,

Answer 10

I think there is a good chance of a Reunion when i split up from previous ex it didn't matter what they left it was trowed out and i def never made contact play it by ear good luck

Answer 11

Na mate, i think you got one last chance. If i didnt want my ex back,i CERTAINLY would not be giving him money back and the dvd woulda been snapped long time ago !

I can safely say you have a big chance. show her how muchyou have missed her. Dont TELL her, SHOW her. goodluck x