To call or not to call???

Question

My ex.bf who a few days ago poped up after 7 months without contact.He drove around my house looking to see if i was around at 7 a.m when usually walk my dog.He works nights and goes to school during the day.He asked me to hang out and then tried to hook up with me even though he has had a gf for 9 months(says he sure she has cheated on him too).I said no and felt uncomfortable.Anyway i still have feeling for this guy he was my first everything.He is the only guy i have ever had sex with and i trust him.I took him up on his offer a day ago out of anger for my own bf cheating on me and i felt num afterward.For some reason my sex drive has come back .Is it a bad idea to call him again?

My friends think i should wait till next week to call him if at all to think more on this?

I think i still have feelings for the ex.bf even though he has a gf?but i feel as if i can control my emotions.

Answer 1

Think about what your doing here. Your helping him cheat on his gf and your cheating on your bf. Best idea would be to send him packing and probably dump you bf. But if your OK with doing this then go for it.

Answer 2

Do not call...
You are both cheaters now...... yahoo.... are you proud.
where are your morals here... what were you thinking.
So one bad thing deserves another.
You have just cheapened yourself and now the ex bf knows where he can go to get it on........
My conscience would be bothering me.
You have now played into ruining 4 peoples relationships.
If he is a ogre doesn't mean you have to be.
He obviously has little respect for you or his gf. Anyone who would sniff around an ex to get one last freebee is a moron.......especially when he is a so called committed relationship.
I dont feel one bit sorry for you,, you are so wrong with this whole thing, you need to get a grip.
if your bf is cheating get rid of him.. if your ex bf is cheating on his gf get ridof him too...
You are an accessory to the crime here.....
I would take a good look at myself and perhaps work on building self esteem.
You should not be in a relationship if you are so vulnerable and so melancholy that you would cheat..... you are better off alone.
Find someone who is not attached and fulfill you urges with him, not some cheater...

Answer 3

Cheating never solves anything. The question you need to ask yourself is why did you feel numb afterwards? Deep down you know that you cheating with your ex just to get back at your boyfriend wasn’t the answer. Besides, your ex is telling you that his current girlfriend is cheating on him but you don’t know that to be true. You basically are helping him hurt someone just as your boyfriend is hurting you. What you need to do is break things off with your boyfriend if he’s cheating on you and you can’t deal with it or get beyond it. As far as your ex, if he wants to be with you then you should have him make a choice to be with you without wanting to be with you just to get back at his girlfriend. All this cheating needs to stop. You need to think of it this way, your ex claims his girl is cheating so that’s 3 people you’re having sex with at least because you don’t know if the person his girl is cheating with it having sex with someone other than her. Then you have your boyfriend who’s cheating so that’s another 2 people you’re having sex with but wait the person that your boyfriend is cheating with is she only having sex with your boyfriend or others besides your boyfriend? So during the course of sex with either of them you’re sleeping with at least 2 or 3 other people. Do you not value your own self respect? You need to leave all of them alone and find someone that will love you, care for you and respect you the way you deserve.

Answer 4

Call if you wanna call and stop asking other people what you should do. I hate a woman who can't make her own decisions like that. It's a sign of weakness that will get you in a lot of trouble in "relationships" and relating with guys. Woman up, dammit and live your own life without asking everyone for directions.

Answer 5

look sweety i had the same situation an my x did the same thing as ur x but the problem was havin sex agan wit that person(ex)gets u attachd an if he doesnt want to b wit u n u want to b wit him believe me that will crush u unless u dont want him bac than i guess it dont matter call him but b4 u do think bout wat ur gona say an make sure hes single cause wen theyhave a gurl they sit there an tex or talk t them in front of u n thats a lil deprresin

Answer 6

No! Don't call him. You did the revenge thing and fine it's over. But if you want to stay in your relationship you have to find out where you guys went wrong. Plainly put!
Be right by yourself.

Answer 7

yes ur getting used. what you did was just as bad as what ur bf did. ur ex cheated on his chik with u and thats wrong no matter how u spin it. hell he could of even lied that she cheated on him, cause wat sad pathetic looser would stay with someone after they cheated on them. so there are 2 questions u can ask urself and these are u gonna *** ur ex looser bf whilst lowering urself to his and ur bf's standards or are you gonna stop being used and manipulated as a booty call and get urself a man who doesnt cheat on u and one u actually give a rats *** about.

sorry if it sounds mean but tough love (tho it should be stated that i dont love you, i just find ur dilema easily fixed)

Answer 8

Well if you have any doubt in your mind than you will leave him alone but if you dont than you both need to brake up with your partners and start a relationship.lol

Answer 9

Yes, it is bad to call him because he ran off and didnt call you. To me that is say-n that he does not want you. Do what your heart tells to do. Follow it, its very wise. It knows you better than you think!

Answer 10

If he makes you feel good sexually and emotionally and you really miss him Girl, call Him you never know this may be it!