I split wit the love of my life 5 months ago,we were really in love. She dumped me cus she thought i didnt trust her cus of a message she got,it was sent by my sis but i took the blame cus of family probs in r house. I near died wit a wee prob and my mum had a cancer scare. She was upset i didnt tell the truth. She went in2 depression wen we split. I wanted 2 tell her but she wudnt speak 2 me, she emailed me recently,shes wit a new guy,she told me she likes him but not in love yet,she still loves me and always will. She said she cant go bak 2 me cus she wont trust me after this but wants me as a friend. Wat do i do cus i really love her,id rather b died than live witout her, i know i can win her trust round,quite quickly,please help me guys. Ive 2 emil her bak any tips???? Ive found out her new fella is only 16 and shes a 20 year old uni student,r friends r disgusted in her and find it sick but i still love her.
Additional Details
7 minutes ago
I sent her alot of letters and emails. I have wrote another letter but i am afraid to send it in case it makes me look obsessed. advice please. should i send it???
2007-03-05 01:15:26 · 9 answers · asked by Paddy I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the trust is gone the trust is gone. You can do all you want but she has moved on and you haven't. You have to make sure that you have not overstepped your bounds with the letter's and emails. There's only so much that can be done when a relationship is over. You can bring back a dead relationship but things and people have to change and people rarely do. So, I am pretty sure you explained your feelings to her. There's nothing else you can do! I can't tell you to move on without her! But you can start living your single life and hopefully you'll find your way.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clearly looking as if she does not love you. Why? Because she has already moved on. It is clear that there was some trust issues and with you emailing bothering her over and over shows you are desperate and needy. So STOP. Back away do not beg chase nothing no phone calls no letters and see what she does this guy is just A rebound and it will not last. If it is meant to be it will work out. If it does not learn from your mistake and you will find love again but heal your heart first. Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 09:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of an email or snail mail (actual hand written letter) try to send her a card 2 or 3x a week, just to say hello and maybe a card saying exactly how much you do love her, friendship sometimes is the only answer when trust is broken, be patient, do not stalk, she will come around if she truly loves you as she says.
2007-03-05 09:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by daphnrich03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
just dont call/text/email her or anything
just act like u have moved on and r happy as she will take advantage of the situsation otherwise and think u will alwyas be there for her to come back to if and when she wishes
it will possibly make her realise what shes missing
but from the sounds of it she has moved on and only wants u as a friend and nothing more
2007-03-05 09:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push it. Be there and let things develop. The new guy is just a bandage on her wounds....when it heals he'll be tossed in the trash, and you need to be there then. Don't be talking about all that love crap to her or you'll push her away. Just be her friend and she will come back to you.
2007-03-05 09:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she doesn't trust you beacause if she loves she shouldn't trust your sister. Does she talk to. Write to me if you want some thing different nelsyfernando@yahoo.com i'm a girl. She doen't loves you. Don't send her anything. Ok
2007-03-05 09:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Nelsy F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth why u need to hide your feelings
2007-03-05 09:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by NUNU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-05 09:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-03-05 09:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋