(I know I have asked this question a few times, but I am just trying to get answers from different groups of people. I apologize if you have already read it.)
I admit, this is going to sound silly........I have a friend who is the mother of a 5 year boy old who seems to be going through a funny phase. Very simply, he has been trying to get her, and even other grown women to sit on his lap! She thought this was funny for a while, but she is getting tired of telling him "no", and trying to explain why it will not work. Is this strange? Has anyone ever heard of this before? She is wondering where this came from and is ready for him to get over it. Any ideas?
2007-03-05 01:03:12 · 7 answers · asked by patrick 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If a 5 year old is performing unwatened vehavior, be a paretn and ignore the behavior. Do not reinforce it, do not encourage it. That means, totally ingnoring it. Reinforce more desried behaviro. You can reinforce behavior unwittingly by giving it attention, even negative attention. Totally ignore the unwated bevavior and give your attention to any desired behavior, however small or infrequent. The child is 5, take control!.
2007-03-05 01:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at five you can speak. You need to ask the child why and talk with him in a way that does not make him feel bad. try to not give your opinion about it insed give leading questions like "what do you like about people on your lap?" and "have you seen someone do this before" maybe "what do you think about when that hapions?". then he may spill his fealings. Make sure you leave it up to him- insed of saying things that are a yes or no question. kids can read you very well and will give the anwser that they think you want.
I would guess he saw something- maybe on t.v. maybe in real life that had a man and a woman together. Or maybe he is playing snata.
2007-03-05 01:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by JenGem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why don't she ask him where this came from? Is this child obsessed with women sitting on his lap or is he just wanting someone to sit on his lap?
I don't think it is all that strange considering my 3 year old tells me to sit on his lap but I just tell him if I do sit on him I will crush him because I am too big for his lil lap. Or I just pretend to sit on it and that is that.
Why are you finding this to be strange? Is your friend? Do you think it is strange in a sexual manner? IF so...then have your friend investigate what is really going on..and/or take him to a therapist....Good LUck.
2007-03-05 01:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's slightly. teenagers are so curious at 5. maximum actual everyone seems to be too huge the two one way or the different to sit down on a 5 twelve months previous's lap. i assume kinfolk could make a humorous tale out of kinda sitting on his lap to assuage him, no longer sit down each and each of how down, nevertheless, until they are fairly small. probable could desire to do the comparable with him as with the two and 3 twelve months olds--diversion--like shall we decide for a walk or bike experience or toss the ball or shoot some hoops, rather.
2016-10-02 10:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of saying 'no', the child should be given a chance to give it a try for a few times, and when the going gets tough, he will give up the habit himself!
2007-03-05 01:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sami V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let someone sit on his lap and when the squash him he will stop asking.
2007-03-05 01:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him no, eventually he will quit. I really do not think it is that big of a deal.
2007-03-05 01:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋