I was supposed to have a special date with my bf yesterday. It was to be special because he had plans last Mon. and Wed. and said he wanted to make it up to me and take me to dinner on Sun. On Sat. night he asked if he could take me at 4 cause he had to go to work in the morning. I agreed. Yesterday, I started calling him at 2 to confirm and his phone was off. He usually always picks up at his place of work. I finally left a message and a text saying that I thought we had plans. I was mad by 3:30. I called his job and they said he wasn't there. He finally called at 4, mad that I left messages and said that me complaining on the voicemail gave him a headache and didn't want to go to dinner. I asked where he was calling from and he said work (even though his coworker said he hadn't been there) I called him right back and the phone was off again until later on that day. I'm so upset that I want to go and get my things from his house today and break it off. He hasn't even apologized.
2007-03-05 01:02:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how long has it been going on for, just ask him outright
if he takes his time to respond or says dont be stupid hes cheating
maybe once is ok if he had other plans,and if hes not at work and hes saying he is you know something is up
but does sound dodgy,just go with your instincts hun there usually right
good luck
2007-03-05 01:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he is. u don't need that go get ur stuff and move on forget him b/c if he cared about u then he wouldn't lie to u and would of kept plans that u two made. I know u love him but its just not worth staying for. So leave and don't look back. If he comes begging u back don't take him back say u had ur chance and u lost it. Trust me i know i made the same mistake and got hurt more in the long run. Stay single for now and hang out with ur friends. Then when u are over him move on to someone who want cheat and will treat u right ok. good luck and if u need to talk my email address is biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 09:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that your boyfriend is cheating on you then maybe you had better talk to him about it, if he refuses to talk about and wants nothing to do with having that conversation with you then you know that something is up, why your boyfriend had his cell phone off, not sure but the important thing is that, you did your part by holding on to the dinner date which shows your commitment and everything that goes with it. If he has not apologized by now there is a possibilty that he won't unless he feels the need, If you think that this relationship is worth fixing then you need to talk to him and see if he wants to make things work, if he does not then that means he does not care about you or the relationship and so, it is a hint to you that the relationship needs to end and right then.
2007-03-05 09:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds suspicious, but don't do anything rash yet. Just go to his house and find out what's going on if he won't pick up the phone. If you're going to have a healthy relationship, there needs to be some kind of trust and honesty going on.
2007-03-05 09:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it makes no sense than it probably is a lie. he will now use that u called as a reason to break up and not take u out. i would break it off, as it goes without saying that he has different priorities, with someone else. and he is also a liar too. he is a coward and doesn't apologize because he isn't sorry for it. we can't make someone love us, best to distance yourself, and stop calling him, its obvious he is cheating, and wants to be with that other person more than he wants to be with u.
2007-03-05 09:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right to be suspicious. He hasn`t apologized because he hasn`t been caught yet. Confront him. He may have a good reason for lying, but I think your on the right track to suspect him of something. For him to break off your date because of a message should tell you something. He`s trying to avoid the issue.
2007-03-05 09:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be cheatin but dont start accusing him of somethin that your not sure of. It was ok for you to call and everythin cuz you were only confirmin somethin..eventho he lied to you and stuff just wait until u have proof or w.e of him cheatin, cuz accusin him of somethin that he might not even be doin is really wrong...just wait and if u think he is then talk to him about it and see what happens...
good luck
2007-03-05 09:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you that because he knew you would believe it, he never had intentions on taking you out, so when you got upset he turned it around on you, it's called reverse psychology. Now you just have to catch him in the act, so you can move on with your life. You should not have to deal with this!
2007-03-05 09:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by TO 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should leave him he obviously has no respect for you.Trust is everything in a relationship without trust you have nothing and it sure does'nt sound like you trust him so move on..Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 09:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIS CHEATING!or his just stupid!...i think both!sorry to say it but someone treats you the way he is right now he is using you...but good news!LIFE GOES ON and on and on and SO MUCH BETTER WITHOUT HIM!You deserve so much better than what he is giving you...believe me when i say, when they start acting the way he is...well shadyness is definitely around!Drop him..and if he wants to come running back you make him pay...you make him earn your trust and your love...Get the ball in your court!
GOODLUCK!
2007-03-05 09:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Cayotegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋