How do you educate an adult to have better manners, not to be childish, be considerated, etc., without hur?

Answer 1

Doing ANYTHING without hur is very difficult. Hur is part of 95% of our interactions, and is the main ingredient in most of the products we use. Maybe if you cut down on the hur, that would help. You may have to use Hur- make sure to use the fat free.

Hope that helped.

Answer 2

Good luck to that!!! I have tried, but unsuccessfully for years. To look at the bright side is, everyone think I am a nice woman on earth with a great manner. I know better. I know there are a lot of things I don't care to have manner about. The result is I get away with people more. You couldn't change someone if they didn't want to change. To have a good manner is to follow the right feeling of doing it. People who have a bad manner about something, most likely don't really care about the thing you think they should care about.

Answer 3

I want to know how old this adult is. What you call childish behavior. Society has changed so much in the manners, morals, ethics depts. Your adult might be more on track in some other peoples minds. It might partly be what he, she is being exposed to that causes the type of behavior you do not like.

Answer 4

What is hur?
If you are worried about hurting thier feelings, DON'T worry.
I would suggest that you speak honestly and directly to the individual. If their manners or childishness interacts and/or interferes with your own children's manners, then I would be doing it poste haste.
If they do not interact with your children, you can still inform them how you feel about their lack of social skills.
Nothing is guaranteed, but it just might give them something to think about!

Answer 5

I think our questioner meant "hurt" instead of "hur". I am happy to see that you want to help your adult friend. I would not give up on your adult friend. Sit down with him/her and explain with kindness how what they are doing is making you feel, and what you would like them to change. If they see how their actions are making you (and others) feel, they might change. If they don't listen to you the first time, keep talking to them. They might be resistant, but keep trying. I'm sure we'd all appreciate people like you who are willing to stop and talk with those adults that we find childish and wish would change. (You could always check out Dear Abby columns too). Thanks!

Answer 6

If a behavioral problem exists, sit down and discuss the problem with the individual and share the proper etiquette to improve that person's manners. Do this after they have privately understood how they may be lacking in manners.This should not hurt anyone's feelings as long as it is done privately.

Answer 7

Find an etiquette class and say something like "hey this looks like fun let's sign up for it together"....or always make sure you mind your manners around this person and if you have children that are performing the same behavior as that adult correct your children.....

Answer 8

It isn't really your job to educate this person. You're trying to change habits that have been in place for his or her lifetime. JonV is correct; the ONLY way to do this politely is to lead by example, and to live by the golden rule. Treat this person with kindness whenever you can (within reason of course - you don't want to get trampled on either). If necessary communicate clearly and tactfully that you'd appreciate the same in return, and that you won't tolerate inconsideration.

Answer 9

The only polite way to teach an adult good manners is by example.

Answer 10

If they're an adult, they are probably a lost cause. Is this a boyfriend? If so, run away because he is trying to train you to accept bad behavior. He will not be changed by love, and he will not outgrow it. I learned this the hard way.