Okay heres my situation, i am engaged to this guy, i am totally and completely in love with him, he says he loves me, but he isnt really trying, i always call him, email, him and talk to him first, im always making the first move, and i confronted him about it, he said he will change but he hasnt, plus im hearing things from people that he is saying things about us that never happened, and then talking trash about me, but the person im hearing these things from likes me, but i have been friends with him for a long time, and i trust him, but then i hear from other people that he never said one bad thing about me, i dont know what to do, do end it?? HELP!!
2007-03-05 00:54:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you engaged to a guy that does'nt have the common courtesy to contact you on a regular basis.It does'nt sound to me like either one of you is ready to take such a big step as marriage.The little rumors that you are hearing are also very childish.I suggest you reconsider your relationship.Good Luck to you.
2007-03-05 00:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look the "red flags" are really waving at you, telling you this guy is not for your. I am going to tell you something and you must take this to heart. This guy is not going to change how he does things for you or noone else. He is saying things that have never happened, talks trash about you. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a man like this? I think you know the answer. I think it is time for you to move on and really find someone who really cares for you as a person. You sound like you deserve better than this, and you do. You should end this engagement as soon as you can and walk away from this guy and do not even look back to catch his shadow fleeeing in the wind. Do not even shed a tear because this guy is a loser. These are facts, by what you have said. There is some guy out there who is special for you and will treat you like you need to be treated. You will find him, just don't hold yourself down with this loser. Before you turn in every night you pray to "God" and ask him to send you the right person, if you trust in him he will send you the right person. But you must have faith in him.
2007-03-05 01:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the rumors, it sounds like he is very LAZY in the relationship. It doesn't sound like he has a very high interest level in you. I would keep dating and try to find someone who would be more excited to have a relationship with you. Best of luck!
2007-03-05 01:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..........the only thing i can tell is look into ur relationship and if u're not ready for it....dont take sucha big step...
secondly.....one common mistake every woman makes...try to change the little habits of her man...honeslty..dont do it..evry1 is unique and u NEED to respect his own personality....
And for the rumours....forget them....dey dont really make a difference ....do they ??
the guy who likes u might be talkin like dat coz he wants u to leave ur fiance and go for him....
hope that helped :)
2007-03-05 01:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋