just had a massive row with my boyfriend again! my dad is in hospital and my bf is showing no signs of giving a toss! i ended the row over the phone basically spliting up. hasnt bothered calling me back. He can be very nasty to me sometimes. But we do get on and that. What shall i do x
2007-03-04 23:59:38 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take BLSFAN44's advice. He knows whereof he speaks.
Then call me and I'll come around with my video camera.
2007-03-05 00:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Women and men, in general, communicate differently. Men will usually only ring each other or converse to exchange information (driving routes, DIY tips, facts about football teams, which is the best processor to buy for a PC) or solve problems.
Often then, when you just need to chat, the guy will be thinking "Hell! That's really harsh! What on earth does she expect me to do about it? I can't live up to solving that problem..."
Men just don't understand those phone calls where you just chat about feelings and things.
I guess the thing to do would be to call him and explain that you weren't expecting him to fix anything and that you felt hurt by his rebuttal. Explain that you never intended to dump on him and that you appreciate that emotional phone calls can be difficult to deal with, but all you wanted to do was have a chat and get things off your chest.
Explain also that when he gets nasty you feel hurt. Stick to the "when you XXXXX I feel YYYY" format and you can't go far wrong.
2007-03-08 23:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by dogsolitude_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too easy for us to say dump him. It's up to you to decide whether you are truly happy with him. Your partner should be your friend too and if he's not willing to be there for you in your our of need then is he really someone you want to hold onto? A relationship is never smooth running. YOu have to take the good with the bad. Whatever you decide don't get in touch with him. He needs to make things up to you and if he doens't then there's your answer. Please do not chase him. He'll lose respect for you. You having nothing to apologise for so be strong. Put your attention to your dad who i hope gets better soon x
2007-03-05 00:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by GroovyChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the fecker. Your Dad is in hospital and he's still the number one man in your life, and the bf is having a problem with this - he has no respect for your other relationships. Lose him. You can do better.
2007-03-05 00:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, in my last relationship we fought all the goddamn time, so I hear you. I don't really know what to tell you in advice for it. I stuck it out and eventually my boyfriend dumped me. Three separate times. I don't suggest just waiting for that. Maybe you just need to have some serious talks with him about this fighting...lay out how it's making you feel and how it's somewhat unacceptable in your relationship. I know it's a pretty awful situation, but don't allow yourself to be a doormat and don't just allow him (or yourself) to become engaged in battles like that so consistently. I hate to say it, but if it's got to end, it's got to. That's all there is to it. Good luck.
2007-03-05 00:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by filledesarcenciel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont think same way as women - why should he give a toss about your dad? Its fine as long as he is prepared to support for you - he doesnt have to be Nurse Nightingale!
2007-03-05 01:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Saucy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do-- do not call him!!!
he was in the wrong let him call and beg!
if he doesn't then you know how much u mean to him!
if he cares about u then he would understand how u are feeling with your dad in hospital! he should be supporting you rather then giving you more aggro!
is he really worth it? let him make the first move
good luck!
2007-03-05 00:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by MiZz RuBy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt give a damn ya dads in hosp tell him to get lost,
ya not expecting him to make things better again just a cuddle would be nice and to know that you could talk to him about things. or it could be that he finds these things difficult to deal if hes not an emotional person anyway he might find it hard to talk about these things,wait till your dads situation is better and see what you want to do then
2007-03-08 21:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by kaye j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered that "basically splitting up". Once you say you are splitting up there is no going back to how it was before, it will always be in your minds that you have split up and are back together because you cant be bothered moving on.
Stay friends with him, but lovers, no.
2007-03-05 00:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by whycantigetagoodnickname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's making you feel bad at such a bad time of life, then it doesn't matter how much you 'get on'. And if he's not here for you when you need him, he's DEFINITELY not worth the stress. Leave him and find someone who understands and respects you.
2007-03-05 01:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Insomnia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on whether your dad is going to get better i dont know his situation but i would worry about your dad then come back to him if he can't be there for you when you need him then why worry and waste your time on him.
2007-03-05 00:41:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋